Category Archives: Sexuality

Engaged in Monogamy

How do diamond rings and monogamy guarantee a life of intensity and passion? Because giving her a diamond ring means monogamy? If you want a monogamous relationship, why does it take a ring to make it monogamous? Again, it’s just another example of pop culture and mainstream society imposing the dominant relationship model as the [...]
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Sex and Therapy

I got an interesting Formspring question the other day, and I thought it was worth reposting and expanding on here. What are your opinions about sexual deviance in the context of therapy? You personally seem to embrace so-called slut identity and repost from self-identified nymphomaniacs, so what does that mean to you therapeutically (in practice) [...]
Also posted in Psychobabble, Sex Miscellany | 3 Comments

Safer Sex

I think that this comment deserves a post all it’s own to receive the answer. Half Pint says: “You rarely address the issue of safe sex. When you have sex with strangers, do you use a condom and/or dental dam? How often are you tested for STDs? What do you consider a “safe” amount of [...]
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To all the kick ass, beautiful, fierce femmes…

Sinclair Sexsmith posted this on his blog, and I had to repost it here. It made me cry. Sob, actually. This is Ivan E. Coyote speaking at this year’s Speak Up! I want to thank Ivan for his words, because it’s true. We do often feel invisible and unnoticed. And it’s also true that we [...]
Also posted in Awesomeness, SGO, Standards of Beauty | 9 Comments

Glee-fully Gay

It should come as no surprise that I love Glee. I mean, come on. It’s the gayest fucking show on television. PLUS! Singing! And it’s fuckin’ funny, man! But there was one joke (very subtle, very sly joke), one reference (very subtle, very sly reference) that I really loved, because it reflected me. Before you [...]
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On Heterosexual Privilege

Queen_George wrote a (very personal) post the other day, and my comment went off on a tangent that I decided I needed to turn into my own post. Interestingly enough, it’s something I’ve found myself talking about with people a lot recently. It involves privilege, namely heterosexual privilege. On Queen_George’s post, I said [sic]: I [...]
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Book Club: The Commitment

I was very excited to learn that we were reading The Commitment: Love, Sex, Marriage, and My Family by Dan Savage this month. I first read it several years ago at the recommendation of Molls, and it quickly became one of my favorite books. Now, it should go without saying that I love Dan Savage. [...]
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Monogamy is Not the Only Answer

I admire Mo’Nique a lot. I think she was fantastic in Precious. I admire her ability to buck traditional standards of beauty, especially in Hollywood, and refuse to shave her legs. And I admire the fact that she has spoken publicly about the fact that she and her husband have an open marriage. Monogamy is [...]
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We Don’t Need No Education?

Sex education is severely lacking in this country. We know this. But it’s not just sexual knowledge that we miss out on when we have poor sex ed. We also miss out on knowledge about our bodies and how our sexual organs work and function. For men, most of their junk is right out there [...]
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Cis-Privilege Bingo

I came across this Cisgender Privilege Bingo the other day, and I thought it was great. After my post the other day, I thought that this graphic was such a simple, yet effective way to demonstrate all of the ways that we may unknowingly demonstrate cis-privilege. Click it to make it bigger. Alana also posted [...]
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