Engaged in Monogamy

How do diamond rings and monogamy guarantee a life of intensity and passion?

Because giving her a diamond ring means monogamy? If you want a monogamous relationship, why does it take a ring to make it monogamous? Again, it’s just another example of pop culture and mainstream society imposing the dominant relationship model as the correct and desirable one.

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  1. MegNo Gravatar
    Posted April 29, 2010 at 12:14 am | Permalink

    I find monogamy and committment to one person incredibly sexy.

    But I don’t much like wearing rings and would rather someone give me ACTUAL COMMITTMENT instead of big jewelry.

    Oh, and I’ve decided that a big wedding is out, should I ever get married. I’m going to the chapel in Yosemite National Park, right after climbing Half Dome.

    P.S. I’m drunk commenting. Sorry, hon.

  2. =)No Gravatar
    Posted April 29, 2010 at 1:28 am | Permalink

    I think the ad meant that the diamond itself would have a life of intensity. But I can see how you might read it that way. It’s definitely sending two messages.

  3. sulpiciaNo Gravatar
    Posted April 29, 2010 at 1:44 am | Permalink

    diamonds are ridiculous. (marriage and monogamy: to each her/his own.) diamonds. egads… make me react so much worse than even your last post on wearing dresses for HIM. (i love summer dresses – for meeeeeeee.)

    diamonds are black stones risen from the core of the earth… they are actually quite amazing. seriously – the process of their creation makes me feel tiny and oh-so-humble. so in that way… there is a forever-ness to them. but they get blasted and cut and polished… by (usually) men stuck in dark high-security rooms with random body-cavity searches. and that’s in northern canada. imagine the non-regulated place that made monogamous-whoever their monogamy. and guess what… they are just rocks. as beautiful or not as any other rock i can find on my walks.

    apologies. i feel so reactive these days and manage to rave instead of coherently articulating a point.

    every time i have to go to the mine i die a little bit more. thank christ it’s only once a year now.

  4. EvaNo Gravatar
    Posted April 29, 2010 at 4:38 am | Permalink

    I think it would have been a little sad if my boyfriend had to buy my trust with a ring. Also, the word “intense” is not the fist that comes to mind when I think of diamonds. They’re just really tiny, clear looking shiny things on boring jewellery.

    There’s a sort of moralistic tone in these ads that makes me doubt these ads would ever be shown here in Norway. When I try to think of why, I came to the conclusion that they work in the USA and not in Norway because they take for granted that the person looking at the ad lives with religious ideals and family values as a natural part of their life.. and there’s more religious people in the USA than here.

  5. sulpiciaNo Gravatar
    Posted April 29, 2010 at 11:33 am | Permalink

    the usa is the biggest purchaser of diamonds, per capita. which is one of the reasons the diamond market crashed when the us economy went to shit. nobody else in the world buys diamonds like americans. (which might explain, in this bizarre, fear-filled, climate, ads like you’ve pointed out, b. nothing like monogamy and a diamond to make us all feel safe, eh?) but have no fear. the diamond market has recovered.

  6. twgNo Gravatar
    Posted April 29, 2010 at 12:08 pm | Permalink

    Ugh, don’t get me started on diamonds. Every time someone gets engaged and immediately shoves their ring in my face I want to hork. That grosses me out.

    If you wouldn’t get engaged to someone without a ring, you probably should rethink marrying them, IMHO. That’s the general you btw :)

  7. alanaNo Gravatar
    Posted April 29, 2010 at 1:52 pm | Permalink

    I don’t want to get married, but if Ryan ever got me a stupid diamond ring I would have to punch him. Maybe an opal in a funny shape, but never a diamond.

  8. MargaretNo Gravatar
    Posted April 29, 2010 at 1:57 pm | Permalink

    I don’t like diamonds. And told the Man if he ever got me a ring (or anything) that had a diamond on it, I would refuse to wear it.

    That doesn’t really have anything to do with your post, but ya know…. :)


  9. JessicaNo Gravatar
    Posted April 29, 2010 at 3:18 pm | Permalink

    Interesting thought, I just see it all as a gesture or token of sorts, but at times I can see how it cheapens the actual commitment. I think it depends on the individuals though.

  10. Nell GwynneNo Gravatar
    Posted April 30, 2010 at 1:20 am | Permalink

    The only time I was ever truly fascinated by a diamond was trying on diamond rings at Tiffany and Co. that could easily cost me a year at SCAD. But I’d never demand that anyone give me one in order to guarantee my faithfulness in a relationship. Because (shockingly), I judge people’s characters rather than their baubles.

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