Category Archives: Sexuality


In the few days since Jesus and I have started actively having sex again, our relationship has already become more intimate. We’re more affectionate, we cuddle more, we kiss more. He told me that he feels “giddy again.” It feels amazing, but at the same time it’s led us to some discussion. He recognizes how [...]
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The other morning, I woke up feeling the slight tingle of desire in my loins and ran with it before it disappeared again. I woke up Jesus, who says that his sleepy brain said, “What’s going on? Is she waking me up… for sexual purposes? OH MY GOD. RUN WITH IT, MAN! GO! GO!” And [...]
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Walking vs. Driving

After another argument about our lack of sex, Jesus and I decided to sit down once again to talk about it. I told him that I’d been the one whose advances were always turned down before, and I know how bad it feels. I understand that it feels like something is wrong with you and that [...]
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An Offer I Can’t Refuse

I may be the luckiest woman in the world. My boyfriend is more understanding than I could ever have expected anyone to be. We’ve been having a total lack of sex lately, and it makes both of us feel like crap. He does everything he can not to push or pressure me or make me [...]
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Guest Post: S&M and Abuse

While I’m busy working and unpacking and setting up my new apartment (Jesus and I are officially cohabitating!), I’ll leave you with a guest post from Molls. Molls recently moved to Holland with her husband (wow, that’s weird to say. Husband is something I never thought I’d associate with Molls) and is unemployed for the [...]
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Erogenous Zones: Head and Neck

Lilly is doing a sort of meme about different parts of the body as erogenous zones, and I thought I’d give it a shot. The first one is head and neck. My head is not really an erogenous zone for me, meaning that having my head rubbed or touched or scratched doesn’t turn me on. [...]
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On Being in Queer Spaces

In a similar vein as my post two days ago, and related to my post from National Coming Out Day, I’ve been struggling a bit with something else lately. It’s no secret that I identify as a queer woman. I feel like the queer community is where I belong, and where I fit in. However, [...]
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On PDA and Sexual Orientation

I’ve written before about the guilt that I experience over my heterosexual privilege. It’s something that I find myself thinking about a lot, especially when I’m in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex. And so it’s something that I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. Jesus and I are pretty affectionate with each [...]
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In and Out

I was out of town and missed posting for National Coming Out Day yesterday, but I wanted to post something anyway, whether it was late or not. I thought that this would be a good time to address a question that ASM asked me at the Calendar Party. She said, “You often mention that you [...]
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Why I Love Dan Savage

To follow up on my “Dan Savage Fail” post, I figured I’d post AWESOME DAN SAVAGE. Not necessarily in the form of great advice, but more along the lines of AWESOME PERSON stuff. In a Word… I have a serious cum fetish. I work odd hours, and my husband often watches porn and masturbates, which [...]
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