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Innocent Victims: The Effects of Domestic Violence on Children, Part I

This is the sixth part in a series about domestic violence, in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month. You may want to read Parts I, II, III, IV, and V. This will be Part I of II on how domestic violence affects children. The abused partner is not the only victim of the domestic violence [...]
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When *She* Is The Batterer: Male Victims of DV

This is the fifth part in a series on domestic violence in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month. You may also want to read Parts I, II, III, and IV. We often think of victims of domestic violence as being exclusively women and perpetrators being exclusively men. And while it’s true that the majority of [...]
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Safety During or After a Violent Incident

This is the fourth in a series of posts about Domestic Violence. Part I is here, Part II is here, and Part III is here. EDIT: I want to add this in response to the first comment that was left on this post. The fact that such a detailed and involved safety plan is even [...]
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Signs To Look For In A Battering Personality

This is the third post in a series about domestic violence in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Part I can be found here and Part II can be found here. Many people are interested in ways they can predict whether they are about to become involved with someone who will be physically abusive. These [...]
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Why Do They Stay?

This is the second post in a series about domestic violence, in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Part I can he found here. One of the most common things that I am asked, or that is said to survivors of domestic violence, is “Why don’t they just leave?” And if it was as simple [...]
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It Felt Like A Kiss

In addition to October being Breast Cancer Awareness Month and LGBT History Month, it’s also Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Some bloggers have already been awesome enough to discuss it or mention it. Others have been courageously telling their stories of abuse and survival on their own blogs for some time now. I mention it here [...]
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There is such a divide between the environment I work in and the life that I live. In many ways, my job makes total sense and is perfect for the kind of person that I am. In other ways, they seem like incompatible and incongruous worlds. I spend my days teaching women about the danger [...]
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Group Post: Dark and Stormy Night

It was a dark and stormy night, like so many summer nights tend to be. It was fitting, really. The weather outside matched the darkness in his eyes, the darkness of my mood, the storminess of our relationship. The thunder served to compliment our argument, adding sound effects and emphasis at all the right moments. [...]
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Bound and Gagged

For my thoughts on Rihanna’s Italian Vogue “S&M,” “bound and gagged,” “topless and muzzled” photoshoot, check out my guest post on Molls’ blog.
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On Jealousy

I don’t do jealousy. Flat out do. not. do it. I’m not a jealous person, and I don’t date jealous people. For me, jealousy serves no function and is nothing but destructive. If someone is overly jealous, that shows a lack of trust in their partner. And if you can’t trust your partner, then  you [...]
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