Category Archives: Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

I Clearly Made The Right Decision on This One

Bartender found me on Facebook recently and sent me a message. Now, let me preface this by saying that there are a lot of reasons that he was not the right person for me. He’s a really good guy that has made some really bad choices in his life. And I loved him very much. [...]
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Day 7: An Ex

I have many exes, and many of them will fit the criteria for one of my future letters. Therefore, I’m going to write a joint letter to all of my exes. To my ex-partners, Thank you all, each and every one of you. Whether I look back on our relationship fondly, or wish I could [...]
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I received this succint and to the point email today: I hate you. Well, now that we’ve established the level of your emotional maturity (non-existent) and your true feelings for me (fantastic), I think we’re done here, no? Angry, hurt, and bitter doesn’t look good on anyone, darling. *CEFAD: Crap Email From A Dude, a [...]
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Follow Me

In case you were unaware, I have a Tumblr about unrequited love and heartbreak. Follow it, yeah? And if you want to submit something to it, you can do that, too.
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I Thought I Knew Him

I thought I knew him, but I guess I didn’t. I thought he knew me, but I guess he didn’t. That’s what hurts the most. The break-up was my decision, but I never wanted it to end like this. I thought he was better than that. I thought wrong.
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I know I said I wouldn’t be writing about my personal life, but I had written this already, and I felt like it was important for me to post. A lot of people disagreed with my decision to sleep with The Bruiser after my break-up with Profligacy. However, there were reasons for the decision. Everyone [...]
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Not Enough

Sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, it’s not enough. Sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, circumstances are such that it’s difficult to make things work. Sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, you are just not capable of giving them what they want and need. And when that’s the case, [...]
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The End

I don’t want to get into the details right now, but Profligacy and I have broken up. It was amicable and cordial, but we’re both pretty heartbroken. I’ll write more when I can muster the energy. At the moment, I’m crying to hard to write much of anything.
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When Master Goes Bad

Over the holidays you may have seen on my Twitter stream where an ex-sub of mine was in trouble. I woke up New Year’s Day about 9 o’clock to see a message on my phone from an unknown number sent at 6 am saying, “Call me when you get up. It’s Betty.” “Betty” was an [...]
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Hate “The Player” And The Game

There is a chapter in Lundy Bancroft’s book Why Does He Do That? that identifies “types” of abusers. Not every abuser fits into a specific type, some have bits and pieces from several different types, and some are predominantly one “type,” with certain aspects of other “types.” When I got to the type that Bancroft [...]
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