In a similar vein as my post two days ago, and related to my post from National Coming Out Day, I’ve been struggling a bit with something else lately. It’s no secret that I identify as a queer woman. I feel like the queer community is where I belong, and where I fit in. However, when I’m dating a male, I feel like I am no longer welcome in queer spaces or at queer events. I find myself embarrassed to be there with my boyfriend, or if he’s not with me, referring to my partner with only neutral pronouns, so as not to give away the fact that I’m dating a dude. I know that my identity doesn’t change with who I date, but to other people, it often does, and that makes me sad and uncomfortable.
Just a few more stray thoughts that I didn’t feel really fit in with my last post about identity.