You don’t have the right to touch my body without my consent. How many times do I have to fucking tell you that? There’s a reason I don’t go to clubs. It’s because I can’t walk through a crowd without someone grabbing my ass or touching me, and I don’t handle that well. In fact, I tend to turn around, tell them they’re sexually assaulting me, and they don’t take it very well. Things usually end poorly. But last night was my friend’s birthday and she wanted to go to a club. So we went.
The night started out well. Good food. Drinks. Dancing. At one point I was dancing with a guy, and I felt what I thought was an erection against me. I shrugged it off, but as we continued dancing, it became very clear that it was, indeed, an erection, and now he was rubbing it on me. I went up to my friends, who were talking to the DJ, and told them that I wanted to leave NOW. Through no fault of their own, between the drinks and the loud music, they didn’t understand just how urgently I wanted to get out of that place. I went up to the bar to pay all of our tabs, just to get us out of there, and Boner Guy came up behind me and full on tried to penetrate me under my dress.
I got the FUCK out of there, and my friends, realizing that I was missing, came outside to find me. I was sobbing. What the FUCK gives someone the right to touch my body? NOTHING. NOTHING GIVES ANYONE THE RIGHT TO TOUCH MY BODY. It’s MY body. But people don’t seem to fucking realize that. So many guys feel like they can take whatever they want from women. But NEWSFLASH: my body belongs to me. NOT YOU. And unfortunately, that’s one of those crimes that I have no proof of, and can’t report to the police. My friend went back in and got him kicked out when she told the DJ what had happened, but beyond that, what can we really do?
I woke up this morning still able to smell that man on me, and I felt sick. I live my life in constant fear of being sexually assaulted and touched without my permission, and there’s clearly a good reason that I’m afraid of that. Because it happens. Every single day, to more women than you know.