Flawed

Veronica over at Another Suburban Mom has asked people to post pictures of their flaws for this week’s HNT. I stopped participating in HNT almost three years ago, but I felt compelled to post something for this one. I’m a huge proponent of embracing and celebrating your flaws, because I think that our beauty lies in our imperfections. I can’t very well say things like that and then refuse to show you mine, now can I?
I’ve posted about my “flaw” before. In fact, that picture was not only the first picture of it that I’d posted on my blog, but the first picture I’d ever even had the courage to take of it at all. I’d posted shots that showed that part of my body before, but I’d always pose in such a way that you couldn’t really see the part that bothered me. I hid it well, not just in pictures but when lying naked with lovers as well. I was always positioned *just so.* Even in that barrier breaking picture, I had positioned that part in the “cutest” way I could. I’d tucked and adjusted and made them look as unpronounced as I possibly could. 
And so this time, I’ve posted an angle that only lovers and a select few internet friends have been privy to up until now. And while I’ve come to terms with the fact that this is just what I look like, I’d be lying if I said that I didn’t hate my labia. I think they’re too long, too large, too prominent. And while I no longer hide them from the people that I’m intimate with and I’ve accepted that this is what my body looks like, the truth is that I’d change them if I could.


My Master loves my cunt lips. He calls them “meaty.” They may be His absolute favorite part of my body, those meaty cunt lips. In fact, He’d like them to be even larger. I’ve found myself a man with an affinity for large, long labia. You’d probably assume that this is a good thing, and it is. There’s a body for everybody, and my body just so happens to meet his aesthetic preference. And it’s nice to have someone genuinely praise, compliment, and objectify a part of my body that I found so unattractive and undesirable for so long. For every picture that I take of myself spreading them this way, pulling them that way, tugging them this direction, pinching them that direction, I become more comfortable with them. With every erection He gets and every encouraging response He gives, I feel more and more beautiful.

These are positive things, yes. But at the same time, it’s been really hard for me to come to terms with the fact that He loves my cunt because it’s “meaty” (I’m really struggling to get used to that word). Because, while to Him, this is an attractive quality and a very big compliment, to me, it just reinforces the fact that all these perceptions I had about my labia my entire life were true. I wasn’t distorting them in my mind. I wasn’t seeing myself with these long lips when they weren’t really there. I really do possess this feature that I’ve always associated with ugliness. Not only do I possess it, I’m being reminded of the fact that I possess it on a repeated basis. And even though it’s in a complimentary way, this hated feature is being called to my attention often. Very often. And I’ve had to accept not only that, but I’ve also had to accept and believe that there is someone that actually finds me beautiful because of it.
With as long as it’s taken and all the progress I still have yet to make, the good news is that I’m learning to love my flaw, one explicitly spread cunt picture at a time.
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48 Comments

  1. Mistress L
    Posted September 9, 2009 at 11:22 pm | Permalink

    Don't feel bad I always think mine is "too compact", it's like a mound of flesh with a slit…kinda freaks me out sometimes too haha. But at least your Master <3s even your flaws =)

  2. Alisha and Brett
    Posted September 9, 2009 at 11:22 pm | Permalink

    I personally don't see anything wrong with it, love the pic actually!

  3. Barefoot Dreamer
    Posted September 9, 2009 at 11:31 pm | Permalink

    See, when I first saw the picture I thought just the opposite, before reading the words (I am visual, I work from the picture out)

    I thought – wow her labia is much smaller than mine!

    So… there ya go.

    I am glad you are learning to accept what is yours.

  4. theybelongtous
    Posted September 9, 2009 at 11:48 pm | Permalink

    Isn't it awesome to have someone love those things that we don't really appreciate about ourselves? I have one of those partners, too. Makes me feel sexy. :)

    peace…

  5. theybelongtous
    Posted September 9, 2009 at 11:50 pm | Permalink

    T says there's nothing wrong with what you have. It's "well worth chewin' on". lol

    peace…

  6. Osbasso
    Posted September 9, 2009 at 11:57 pm | Permalink

    I'm thinking that he's not the first to love them like he does. Glad you're getting more comfortable!

  7. 13messages
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 12:23 am | Permalink

    He's a lucky man and you're a beautiful woman. Thanks for sharing such a sexy part of you here.

  8. Vanilla Kinks
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 12:54 am | Permalink

    I have always been self concerned with the size, and shape of my labia as well.

    I grew up sharing a bedroom with my sister who is 14 months older than me. She is the owner of a compact vulva. In my case, my inner lips are much larger and longer than my outer lips. She gave me a lot of shit about this "abnormality" for years.

    I have yet to find a partner who complains about the same thing.

  9. Sweet Elle Next Door
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 1:46 am | Permalink

    To be honest I've never given mine that much thought. Looks normal to me though :)

  10. nuclearrainbow
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 1:47 am | Permalink

    Both my inner and outer labia are on the larger side, but because it's both, the outer ones still cover the inner ones. I never had a problem with this luckily, and neither had my partners. It must be really not nice to feel uncomfortable in something so important and sexual as that. And so good that you are now feeling better!

    (and congrats on your collaring, I was offline for a while so I just read that)

    /Nuclear Rainbow

  11. Eve
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 3:00 am | Permalink

    When I first saw this post I was confused. I saw the picture and I couldn't figure out why the title would be "Flawed".

    It makes more sense now that I've read the post. Obviously (to me at least) there's nothing flawed about your labia. They're beautiful! However, I definitely understand the feeling of not liking a particular body part, or feeling that some part of oneself is unattractive. I sometimes feel the same way about my large thighs and hips. (not that they're THAT big…they're certainly not bigger than would be healthy…but at a short/petite 5'2" at 115 pounds, my thighs and hips are proportionally large compared to the rest of me) Nobody has ever said anything bad about my thighs (not even the stretch marks), but sometimes I feel awkward about the size or the shape of them, or the fact that most of the clothes I try on aren't made for hips like mine (which leaves me feeling like a deviation from "normal"…though my hips are natural and the clothing designs are merely invented). I sometimes find myself wondering if I should exercise a bit more to make them a little slimmer, even though my boyfriend loves their curves the way they are.

    Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that it's more about the perception of a physical flaw than it is about any real flaw in the body. And your labia are beautiful and wonderfully womanly. Try to be proud of them. :)

  12. Amorous Rocker
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 3:04 am | Permalink

    I'm so glad you posted this picture and these words. I don't think there is anything wrong with your lips at all. I've never thought that to be ugly at all. I'm happy He is helping you see just how beautiful every inch of you us.

  13. An Artist Exposed
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 3:09 am | Permalink

    Achingly beautiful… I could not resist taking up my pencil and drawing you…

  14. Lilly
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 6:04 am | Permalink

    Nothing wrong here with what I see. I have to wonder how many women go around thinking they're abnormal. I think I am. My outter labia are too fat and full, so that even when my legs are spread wide, I'm still not "open". They hide my clit away. I don't seem to have an obvious clit or clitoral hood.

    You see? We don't think we're normal because there is no normal.

  15. Another Suburban Mom
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 6:06 am | Permalink

    Thank you for posting this photo. I think that you have a great looking cunt. (Words I never thought I would write)

    And kudos to the Master for treating it so well.

  16. Hubman
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 6:29 am | Permalink

    Like your Master, I love big meaty lips. Yours are beautiful even if you think they're "flawed"

    Thanks for rejoining the HNT fun, if only for a week.

    Happy HNT!

  17. James
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 6:40 am | Permalink

    I see absolutely nothing flawed about that. You are beautiful. HHNT

  18. Morning Glory
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 7:00 am | Permalink

    I too see nothing wrong here. However, I don't like that "meaty" term … hmmm …

    xoxo
    - MG

  19. Red
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 7:30 am | Permalink

    It's amazing what we see as flaws when others don't. I don't concider your "meatiness" (is that a word??) a flaw at all. Beautiful. Happy HNT!

  20. Bob
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 8:14 am | Permalink

    Them there lips are sweet! Them are! They put you apart from the other lips in this world. Them other lips can be oh so boring. BORING!

    When master commands you to spread your lips GOOD GOLLY! You got the lips to spread. Be proud of them.

    Geeze, what is it with women and how they feel about parts of their body?

  21. Professor Fate
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 8:17 am | Permalink

    Wow. That isn't a flaw I expected to see. Thanks for the honesty. HHNT

    p.s.

    I think imperfection is a better word than flawed. To me, flaw implies that it is something you can fix but choose not to.

    If every girl had a body like the girls in Playboy and if every boy had a body like a Chippendale dancer, the world would be a bland place. Celebrate the difference our imperfections are what make us interesting. Everyone's imperfections make us appreciate the beauty of the fantasies that artists (and magazines) show. Sometimes people forget that they are fantasies designed to sell magazines and product.

  22. Just me...
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 8:59 am | Permalink

    Variety is the spice of life!! If we all looked alike 'down there' wouldn't that be a little boring for the one doing the looking?!
    And ditto Morning Glory's comments!! :) :):)
    HHNT!!!

  23. Emmy
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 9:07 am | Permalink

    I love the fact you showed this part of yourself and talked about your perceived "flaw". I think most woman have some sort of notion about what a "normal labia" should look like. And, of course, the one they have is never "normal".

    I, for one, enjoy the variety. And yours is gorgeous! :)

  24. Nolens Volens
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 9:50 am | Permalink

    I *am* a lip man and I wouldn't say "meaty"…I'd say "engorged with love and lust". :) Your pussy looks fabulous in its engorged state. HHNT!

    By the way, I really loved how you structured your last sentence – "the good news is that I'm learning to love my flaw, one explicitly spread cunt picture at a time."

  25. Ms Scarlett
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 10:46 am | Permalink

    I am loving the pictures today – everyone is just looking absolutely amazing to me!

    I think we all tend to take that little thing we don't like about ourselves and "grow it big" in our own minds. It's only when we share it that we start to see that other people don't even notice it; or, even better, think it's beautiful.

    You are beautiful Britni – and kudos for posting this!

    HHNT!! XO

  26. Occasional Kitten
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 10:54 am | Permalink

    I think you look wonderful, I didn't see anything wrong. You're sexy! All of you!

  27. Kara and Jessica
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 11:21 am | Permalink

    I think your lips are beautiful. They are very similar to mine. That's why my ex had me get them pierced. Thanks for sharing.

    -Jessica-

  28. Advizor
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 12:07 pm | Permalink

    Like others have said, I have looked at this picture for a long time and can't see the flaws you are talking about. :-)

    I think we all find flaws in ourselves that others love. For me, it's my big penis or my chiseled pecs, or my smile that is too bright or my eyes that sparkle just a little too much for my own good. Or maybe it's my humility…..

    My wife has issues with her body that drive me crazy. She has a fantastic figure because she has had three kids, not "in spite of" the kids. She is full and curvy and fit and has beautiful skin and it kills me that she wants to hide and apologize when we are alone and naked together.

    Britni, you are beautiful, just face the facts, from top to bottom and right in between, you are going to have to suffer through it and accept it, you are practically perfect in every way.

  29. the eternal list
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 1:27 pm | Permalink

    i don't see any flaws, and i'm not just saying that…

  30. Sexy PTA Mom
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 1:30 pm | Permalink

    Just joining the bandwagon here. Mine are much larger than yours. Maybe because I was never exposed to Playboy or that sort of thing at an early age, I never really had an opinion about my labia until I started having sex at 19. I have always been with men who loved their fullness, so it's always been a good thing for me. I think yours are petite and delicate personally, but meaty is good too! I think the variety of feminine beauty is simply amazing!

  31. longingsend
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 1:38 pm | Permalink

    I think a LOT of women aren't happy with what their lips look like. I don't like mine very much at all either. I call mine a nekkid chicken when it's shaved. It makes no sense really, I guess I just felt the shape of my lips reminded me of a beak. In any case… I still think it's a beautiful thing that all women look different down there. Even men have variances amongst themselves.

    xoxo mina

  32. xX...Amy...Xx
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 1:38 pm | Permalink

    I have the same thing, and the same complex about it. I wish I'd had the courage to post a picture for HNT like this, because it's something I worry about more than my stomach when I'm getting with someone else. It's silly how there's even beauty ideals for labia.

    Someone telling you you're beautiful is very helpful, but you're in a bit of a catch 22 situation really!

    xxxx

  33. bookbinder
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 2:12 pm | Permalink

    I never imagined that the size and shape of the pussy's lips could even be considered a flaw. They all look good to me and that means your's too.

  34. Bob
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 2:14 pm | Permalink

    Here's major labia . . . major. You've got nothing compared to what's here:

    http://lusciouslibertine.blogspot.com/2009/08/luscious-labia.html

    Smile. Be happy.

  35. Sequoia Redd
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 2:27 pm | Permalink

    meaty lips are not a flaw.

  36. Ben
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 2:42 pm | Permalink

    You're a delight. Relax and enjoy the fun. Do you think that every cock is gorgeous? Not.

  37. eva
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 3:25 pm | Permalink

    Wow- that's a lot of comments!! I think you should check out http://www.sexylabia.com/ for lots of hot pictures of sexy ladies with much bigger labias than yours. There's also some interesting stuff to read there on why a big labia has started being seen as different in the first place. They mainly blame playboy and soft porn, since playboy and soft porn makers tricked people into getting weird ideas on the human anatomy by having their female models tucking in their labia for the photos. They did this in order to not be too naughty or vulgar – in the same way that they didn't show erect cocks. Soft porn is rubbish!

  38. PrettyPrettyPrincess
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 3:43 pm | Permalink

    Your kitty lips are HOT. They don't look large, to me they look just right, and sexy.

    I've always considered mine too flat. Not abnormally flat, one thing I've learned is that all of us are arranged differently – but too flat for my esthetic.

  39. champagneandbenzedrine
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 3:50 pm | Permalink

    My wife's labia are considerably bigger than yours, and I don't see anything wrong with hers, either!

  40. MIXED
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 4:41 pm | Permalink

    My labia are big! And I am always so insecure about it toooo. But then I watch porn and realize every pussy is different and every pussy is beautiful. Point being, I go through phases of HATING what my cunt lips look like, and then realizing that I should accept my body for the wonderful, unique thing it is. Always back and forth, isn't it?

  41. Aurore
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 6:37 pm | Permalink

    I looked at the pic first and then your words. I have to say that the first thing I thought was how beautiful they would be opened up. We all have our flaws and I'm glad you are starting to see the beauty in yours.

  42. Dharma
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 6:49 pm | Permalink

    Thank god we don't all look alike — not in the face, not in the fingerprint, not in the puss.

    I hate what commercial porn has done to womens' perceptions of what is "normal" and what isn't. I love your picture. I don't think you're flawed at all…

    Thank you for being courageous enough to share with us.

    HHNT!

  43. frenchiestories
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 6:56 pm | Permalink

    Thank you for your honesty and words, we all have those "flaws" I love that you faced yours head on.

    frenchies

  44. matt0701
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 7:04 pm | Permalink

    Wow! There's definitely no flaws there. You have one HOT set of lips!! I think the size is perfect!!!

  45. NY Diva
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 7:24 pm | Permalink

    Thank you for participating just to share this. I think you're wonderful just the way you are and I'm glad you have a lover who feels the same!

  46. Kimberly
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 8:48 pm | Permalink

    Wonderful picture – wonderful pussy! Kudos for the incredible bravery you show in sharing such an intimate photo with all of us.

  47. figleaf
    Posted September 10, 2009 at 11:52 pm | Permalink

    Oh ya big goof!

    I'm speaking to myself here, not you, Britni. When I was a kid I was so terrified about how deformed my cock was I was literally close to tears (literal in the sense that my eyes were stinging) with fear the first time someone touched it in a dark room! I thought she'd be able to tell in the dark! Worse, I thought she'd be able to tell, be repulsed, never want to see me again, and put up a huge billboard about how deformed I was on the main road through downtown… even though she'd never seen or touched one before.

    Turns out I'm perfectly normal. The drawings in what was supposed to be a sex ed book were just completely wrong — there was no upward curvature at all and I swear the glans was upside down (frenulum on top.)

    So anyway, yeah, I had this idea about how they were supposed to look, and mine didn't look that way, so I thought I was flawed. Even though no one, ever, anywhere, would have imagined it was anything but just another perfectly average cock. With the emphasis the perfectly part. :-)

    Anyway, point being I was a big goof. And fortunately a lovable, functional, and evidently desirable goof.

    As are you.

    figleaf

    p.s. Unless you have socks on you're not very half-nekkid but Happy HNT anyway.

  48. Epiphora
    Posted December 28, 2009 at 6:54 pm | Permalink

    Meaty is a weird word. I'd be adverse to it, too. But personally, I prefer noticeable labia on ladies. Dunno why, but that's what I like in my pr0n. So I definitely like yours.

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