I had a date with someone the other night that went really well. So well, in fact, that neither of us realized how long we had been in the bar, and I missed the train home. He offered to split my cab fare with me, but it was easily a $40 cab ride and I can’t really afford to be spending that much money on cabs, so he offered to let me sleep at his place, if I was comfortable with it. I said that I would be as long as we established before we even got there that I would not be having sex with him that night. He offered me the guest bed, if that made me more comfortable, and off we went.
When we got to his place, we started kissing in the living room, which eventually led to the bedroom. The kissing led to hands up my shirt, and hands up my shirt led to hands down my pants. His fingers were absolutely magical and it wasn’t long before I was all, “OHMIGOD, okay, plz to fuck me nao?” He looked at me and asked, “Are you sure? You said you didn’t want to have sex tonight, and I don’t want you to do something you’re not comfortable with.”
And that right there made me want to fuck him even more. THAT is how you do enthusiastic consent. THAT is how you respect the boundaries that your partner has set for you. It really is as simple as asking, “Are you sure?” And yes, I was sure, and after that I was even more sure.
“Yes, I want you to fuck me.”
Consent granted. Let the fucking commence!
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He is definitely a gentleman.
I’m frustrated with rape culture for making something that should be a given feel special. This is the lowest bar of what everyone should expect from their sexual partners.
A person doesn’t have to be particularly special to make sure he or she is getting enthusiastic participation from his or her partners. It’s really easy, and from my experience, it’s the way most people work. It’s just not being an asshole.
The magic fingers, now that’s special.
*thumbs up all over the place*
I agree. Fucking awesome.
High five! Hurray for good experiences with consent.
I am sure that the thoughtfulness only made it sexier.
nice. good guy.