Profligacy and I have been looking for a collar for everyday wear for a while now. We wanted something that I could wear all the time, but everything we found was either too obviously a collar, or just “not me.” We wanted this because a) I can’t wear my collar 24/7, yet it’s nice to have something that symbolizes that, and b) we’re long distance, and it’s not like I can go out in public with Him and people will know that I have a partner, so we wanted something to symbolize the fact that I am taken.

After talking about it for a while, He asked how I would feel about a ring. I am nowhere near ready to accept an engagement ring, yet would be willing to wear a “commitment” ring. On my left hand, of course, so people would know that I was not available. And so, you may have seen me tweeting about a Very Special Present while I was visiting Profligacy this last time. And it is, indeed, Very Special. He took me to pick it out, and it’s perfect. It’s purple, it’s beautiful, it’s me, it’s US.
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  1. JessNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 11:56 am | Permalink

    Love it :)

  2. minaNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 12:00 pm | Permalink

    It is very pretty! Congrats!

  3. MargaretNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 12:07 pm | Permalink

    Yah! :) I’m so happy you found something that works for both of you. It’s beautiful.


  4. AmyNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 12:36 pm | Permalink

    Aw, that’s such a sweet, beautiful photo :) It is *very* you!


  5. OsbassoNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 12:53 pm | Permalink

    Woohoo! And pretty, too!

  6. frenchiesNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 12:58 pm | Permalink

    Aww that’s so sweet! And then it’s beautiful too! Congrats on finding a pleasing solution.

  7. AprilNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 2:44 pm | Permalink

    What a beautiful ring! I know it’s more traditional to go with a ring to show you’re taken than it is wearing a collar, but it’s very fitting for you and your personality. Love it!

  8. SqweakNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 3:07 pm | Permalink

    Purdy! I love purple ^_^

  9. AuroreNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 4:18 pm | Permalink

    Beautiful! I love the purple.

  10. KaylaNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 5:08 pm | Permalink

    Beautiful! I love it. Great idea for a collar. Jor has his neck collar and an anklet. :) Yours is prettier though.

  11. VixenNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 7:04 pm | Permalink

    Very pretty!

  12. SarahbearNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 7:29 pm | Permalink

    It’s very pretty. I had never really thought of a commitment/engagement/wedding ring as a collar, but I guess anything that is a symbol of your devotion to your partner is. =)

  13. Dangerous LillyNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 9:17 pm | Permalink

    If a bracelet can be called a public collar, so can a ring. They both encircle and that is the symbolism that matters.


    awwwwwwwwwww :)

  14. Wilhelmina WangNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 10:35 pm | Permalink

    lovely idea, lovely ring :) it’s also very you.

    yeahhhh i just echoed the last 10 comments but whatev!

  15. ThatToyChickNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 10:41 pm | Permalink

    Rings worn on the finger are actually heavily steeped in myth – some of my favorite myths involve rings. For instance, Greek myth states that Prometheus wore a ring in place of the much-larger shackles that had bound him to his punishment: http://www.theringroom.co.uk/ringmyths.html

    Granted, not exactly cheery, but I think it’s so interesting to have customs that date back in mention so far as these. Wikipedia has some neato stuff too: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wedding_ring (I know, yours is not a wedding ring, but same general idea of ring-as-statement, yah?)

    It is wonderfully beautiful, I agree. Amethyst, right?

    • Britni TheVadgeWigNo Gravatar
      Posted March 4, 2010 at 10:43 pm | Permalink

      It is an amethyst! Surrounded by diamonds.

  16. Nadia WestNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 10:43 pm | Permalink

    Yay! Pretty ring. I know that I love my necklace with the lock pendant. I haven’t taken it off since he put it on me. And thankfully it looks good with my collar as well.

    I’m sure it will be comforting to see the ring and remember what it means. :-)

  17. MegNo Gravatar
    Posted March 4, 2010 at 11:12 pm | Permalink

    Beautiful ring! It is very Britni, indeed.

    Also, inspired by your purple-dress-with-green-tights combo, tomorrow I’m wearing a green necklace with a pink top. For me, it works. : )

  18. tonya cinnnamonNo Gravatar
    Posted March 5, 2010 at 7:47 am | Permalink

    oh love its gorgeous!!!!!!

  19. PixieNo Gravatar
    Posted March 5, 2010 at 8:21 am | Permalink

    Beautiful :)

  20. nenasadijeNo Gravatar
    Posted March 5, 2010 at 8:58 am | Permalink

    aw. my engagement ring is an amethyst. it’s a very healing, protective and transformative stone. looks like it came into your life at the right time.

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