Sleeping Alone

Advizor wrote this post yesterday and it got me thinking about sleeping alone. Well, there’s really not much to think about, really. Because I hate sleeping alone. Loathe it. Even when I’m content and happy being single, sleeping alone is something that I never quite adjust to. Waking up next to no one is probably the loneliest feeling in the world. There’s nothing I love more than having someone hold me until I drift off to sleep. Or having someone wake me up in the middle of the night just to have their way with me and then immediately revisiting dreamland. Or opening my eyes in the morning to see someone sleeping peacefully beside me. In fact, I’d rather sleep in the bed of someone that I never intend to see again or someone that is hostile and mean than sleep alone in my big bed.

However, I also imagine that waking up in a bed next to someone that you no longer love, connect with, or want is probably just as lonely. It’s funny, how you can have someone right there with you, waking up to them every morning and going to bed with them every night, yet still feel utterly and completely alone.
Whichever way you spin it, bed can sometimes be the loneliest place in the world when there’s no one else in it. Or even if there is. I look forward to the day that I can share a bed with someone that I love going to sleep with each night and that I love waking up next to each morning. Because then my bed won’t be so lonely anymore.
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  1. Daniela
    Posted August 26, 2009 at 2:48 am | Permalink

    It would make sense for the bed to be a lonely place at times; there's a certain level of intimacy to allowing someone to sleep next to you or being invited to sleep next to someone. I've always slept alone, being a young'un and all, but I can definitely see how it would be nice to not wake up alone.

  2. Topaz
    Posted August 26, 2009 at 7:06 am | Permalink

    Though married, I often wake up alone, but I don't find it lonely. I guess it's because H is a phone call away? But even when single, I love the guilty pleasure of an over sized bed all to myself.

    But don't get me wrong – the days I wake up to H's smile are also wonderful. I guess, for some of us, there's a balance between hogging and sharing a bed.

  3. River Girl
    Posted August 26, 2009 at 9:13 am | Permalink

    Yes, there is nothing as lonely as sleeping in a bed, beside someone and still feeling completely alone..

    I have been on both ends, and must agree that nothing can replace the feeling of waking up beside someone you love..

  4. Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois
    Posted August 26, 2009 at 11:10 am | Permalink

    I love sleeping alone. Then you can stretch out and fart as much as you want! There's something wonderful about enjoying your own self sometimes.

  5. xX...Amy...Xx
    Posted August 26, 2009 at 12:09 pm | Permalink

    Sometimes I hate sleeping alone. It can be very depressing, especially when everyone else has gone off to bed with their other halves.

    But other times, I love that I don't have to share the duvet with anyone. I love waking up next to someone, but I never sleep as well. Maybe it's being out of practice!


  6. alana
    Posted August 26, 2009 at 1:46 pm | Permalink

    It seems my whole life is made up of contradictions. lol

    I can’t sleep if Ryan’s not home (he doesn’t even necessarily need to be in bed with me), but I can’t stand being touched when I’m sleeping. I also hate sharing a blanket. I’m such a blanket hog that we each have our own separate ones. Since he’s an outstanding member of society and I’m a lazy bum, I almost always wake up alone. It’s never lonely though. Maybe it’s because even though his side of the bed is empty, his place in my life isn’t. I don’t know.

  7. Kara and Jessica
    Posted August 26, 2009 at 3:23 pm | Permalink

    I actually just mentioned this in my TMI post. When I first moved in with Jess we had separate rooms so we could have some space. Even though I was dating her it had only been a few weeks and I was taking the room of her ex college roommate. Though after the first month I now sleep in her room all the time. It was hard to sleep alone when I new she was in the next room. Kara XOXO

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