ATTENTION ALL MEN: Not every woman is capable of orgasming. Not every woman is capable of orgasming every time. Just because she does not have an orgasm does not mean she is not enjoying herself. Just because she doesn’t orgasm doesn’t mean that it doesn’t feel good. Just because she doesn’t orgasm does not mean that you are doing something wrong. Do not make her feel guilty if she does not get off. And if you think that you’ve always been able to get every girl off in the past, I have news for you: most of them were probably faking it. It’s just not realistic to expect that a girl will get off every time, especially from just P in V sex. And especially on your first few times playing together when neither of you know each other’s bodies well. The problem isn’t her lack of orgasm, it’s your insistence and pressure on her to have one and the guilt you inflict on her if she doesn’t. Just enjoy the moment and stop stressing about whether she is going to get off. You pressuring her to come is going to make it even harder for her to do so. If she tells you the sex was good and it felt great and she would love to do it again, she means it. Number of orgasms is not directly proportional to the level of enjoyment of the sex.
I'm Britni, a snarky bitch and generally awesome person. I write about sex, love, and bullshit. If sex-positivity, discussions about BDSM and kink, queer issues, and topics that are completely inappropriate by society's standards make you uncomfortable, then this blog is not for you.
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Thank you for this, baby girl! It is SO TRUE.
Hey…..
Not ALL of us need the reminder! lol…
HERE! HERE!
AMEN. Can we get this PSA to air on primetime network television?
Amen. Yes, yes, ohgod, yes.
FTW.
Heh. Payback time for all those years of women complaining that men never catered to their needs.
We are now culturally conditioned to believe that women are required to have multiple orgasms in any and every sexual situation – and that we puny men are worthless failures if we do not achieve that on every singe occasion.
Welcome to modern man, womankind, but do not critise him, for you created him…
hell ya!!!!! you have hit it right on briti
amen!
and just to add, this isn't gender specific. anyone bringing guilt and shame and insecurity into my bedroom can watch the door on the way out.
This is one of the things that really bother me about romance books. I know it’s stupid, but I get really pissed how the women always have these raging mind numbing orgasms (on top of that, they’re usually virgins). Plus, they usually have them at the same moment as their partner.
Wtf?
No wonder people are so confused. All the media they’re exposed to teach them that this normal. I’ve never had an orgasm (depressing isn’t it) and I have a great healthy sex life. (I’ve to explain this very thing to most of my friends because they just don’t know.)
I had one lover with whom I had consistent simultaneous orgasms. I think I always had an O with him because he lasted a long time and our anatomic alignment was perfect. It was simultaneous because after five minutes of thrusting, just touching him in certain places triggered his orgasm. So I waited for mine and elicited his. It was nice.
But never before and never after…
Riva