In one of my classes, we watched a documentary entitled West Coast Crones: A Glimpse At the Lives of Nine Old Lesbians. My professor did not tell us the title of the video or what the video was about before showing it to us. However, I must have top-notch gaydar because the second the group of older woman came onto the screen, I said to the person next to me, “They are all lesbians.” She looked at me like I was crazy, but I was right!
But that is not what this post is about. At the end of the film one of the ladies, when asked if she had any advice that she wished she could have given to herself when she was younger, says, “Be who you are sooner.” These words hit me really hard, and I found them to be really powerful. I also found them to be a sort of personal motto that I live by without even really knowing it.
As I have stated before, I always am and always strive to be unabashedly myself. I am who I am, I love who I am, and I try to be who I am at all times regardless of what other people think about me. I try not to let other people’s beliefs and opinions affect me and what I do. I try to formulate my own thoughts and feelings about things, as opposed to simply accepting what other people preach to me. I try not to let other people’s judgments and opinions about me affect the way I act or the things I say. I don’t let people affect the way I dress, the things I do, or the life I live. I think that it is so, so important to live life this way.
Can you really be happy if you are constantly letting other people affect your life? Can you be happy being what other people expect you to be? Can you be happy simply mirroring what you see around you? I don’t think that you can. I don’t think that you can ever be truly happy until you embrace who you are and become the person that you want to be. Live your life for yourself and not for other people.
Being proud of and embracing yourself, faults and all, is one of the most important things that you can do. I know that this is a lesson that takes people years to learn, and some people are still learning it. I’m fortunate to have come to terms with it at a young age, and I hope that it can help me live a happy and fulfilled life. I would never want to look back and wish I had been able to be true to myself earlier in my life.
Be who you are sooner. Those are most definitely words to live by.