Whenever I’m with a new partner, I can almost guarantee that the same thing will happen when we first start hooking up. They will hone in on my clit and fiddle with it, and it will do absolutely nothing for me. However, I can easily get off from just clitoral stimulation; in fact, I do it all the time on my own. But what I’ve finally realized is that it’s the *kind* of clitoral stimulation that makes the difference.
I dislike pinpoint clitoral stimulation. I hate when I’m being fingered and my partner takes one finger directly to my clit and rubs. It’s irritating and too much. It’s probably why I mostly dislike receiving oral sex, too. And why, no matter how hard I try, I can’t get off with the Eroscillator. And I hate the little “gumdrop” attachment for my Wahl that other people seem to love.
Yet, I can get off from dry humping alone. Or from grinding on someone’s leg. Or when riding a cock and grinding on their pelvis. Or when they’re on top of me and grinding into mine. I can get off from the Hitachi, which has a large head and distributes vibrations over a larger surface area. And the attachment that I like best on the Wahl is the one that covers the most area and has a flat, wide surface.
I don’t why know it’s taken me so long to figure out exactly why I could get off from clitoral stimulation, yet direct contact with my clit did nothing for me. But, now I know. It’s just that pinpoint stimulation isn’t my cup of tea. But stimulate a larger surface area with less direct contact with my clit, and I’m a happy girl.