Whenever I’m with a new partner, I can almost guarantee that the same thing will happen when we first start hooking up. They will hone in on my clit and fiddle with it, and it will do absolutely nothing for me. However, I can easily get off from just clitoral stimulation; in fact, I do it all the time on my own. But what I’ve finally realized is that it’s the *kind* of clitoral stimulation that makes the difference.
I dislike pinpoint clitoral stimulation. I hate when I’m being fingered and my partner takes one finger directly to my clit and rubs. It’s irritating and too much. It’s probably why I mostly dislike receiving oral sex, too. And why, no matter how hard I try, I can’t get off with the Eroscillator. And I hate the little “gumdrop” attachment for my Wahl that other people seem to love.
Yet, I can get off from dry humping alone. Or from grinding on someone’s leg. Or when riding a cock and grinding on their pelvis. Or when they’re on top of me and grinding into mine. I can get off from the Hitachi, which has a large head and distributes vibrations over a larger surface area. And the attachment that I like best on the Wahl is the one that covers the most area and has a flat, wide surface.
I don’t why know it’s taken me so long to figure out exactly why I could get off from clitoral stimulation, yet direct contact with my clit did nothing for me. But, now I know. It’s just that pinpoint stimulation isn’t my cup of tea. But stimulate a larger surface area with less direct contact with my clit, and I’m a happy girl.
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I’m exactly the same way. Direct, pinpoint contact with my clit almost hurts it’s so sensitive, but indirect contact gets me off just fine.
I’m also picky about what pattern of stimulation I get during oral sex. If they guy can’t get it just right, it takes me a really long time to get off.
But, I can get off in 5 minutes flat with my Hitachi! Isn’t it odd?
I like broad and flat, too. I can get off with oral but it involves a lot of face humping from me.
A GOOD HARD CHIN AGAINST YOUR TIGHT JEANS- WHAT A CLIMAX
This does explain a lot. Also, I’m not sure whether that picture is win or fail.
Then find me a better one.
When it comes to clitoral stimulation, I am the same way. When I use any vibrator, it is not placed directly on my clit but rather to the side or just above. Growing up, before I ever owned a toy, I always masturbated by grinding myself against a large, flat object. Most common was a pillow that I could squeeze between my legs.
Me, too! I thought I was weird. I still use a pillow if I’m somewhere and don’t have my vibe (my own pillow, not someone else’s!!).
Guess I’m not weird after all. : )
I’m the total opposite, and I wish I could get off with intercourse in the way you describe, it can be so frustrating to need direct clitoral stimulation to come, even if it does feel good when you do!
xoxox
I love diffuse vibrations too, the massage-y stuff. I never really thought of oral sex as pinpoint-y because it’s gentle — and I love it too. Also fingers. And pinpoint vibration if it’s not too strong.
I think maybe I am just easy.
It’s all about the circles! Big, hard circles going over the hood and round the bottom of my clit. Mmmm. I know some people love flicking over their clit – and it does get a reaction out of me; it feels kind of good but it’ll never get me there (mind you – nothing does these days).
I love hearing about how different people like different things – the diversity of our sexuality’s so fascinating.
This is cool, because we seem to be built similarly. Until I discovered sex toys, it was pillows all the way. I do enjoy the Eroscillator though, but I use the marshmallow attachment (which is already more diffuse than the other attachments) and use it over panties or some other fabric.
I’m a total wides surface area gal too! I felt like I was the only one for sooo long. Then I read the Hite report and found a bit about girls who used to make a fist out of the bedding and grind into it. Viva la difference!