I’ve noticed lately what seems to be a shift away from the shaved/waxed completely bare trend that dominated pubic grooming for the last several years. I know that beauty standards come and go, and things come in and out of style. But it seems like there has been a backlash, especially on the part of women, to the expectation that they have completely bare genitals, and I’m seeing other grooming trends pop up in porn and such. Whether it’s trimming, leaving some hair, or not shaving at all, it seems to me to be more prevalent than it was just a year ago.
I’ve written before about my experiences with my own pubic hair grooming. I’ve always been completely bare, but lately I’ve been trimming myself down more, or only shaving once a week or so. The Bruiser preferred me when I had some hair, and Profligacy likes it, too, so it gave me the confidence to forego the bare shave completely. I shave the edges and my labia/inner thighs, but I leave my mons trimmed short, and only do it once a week or so. I like it.
And so, I’d like to ask you all about your own grooming habits/preferences, just for curiosity’s sake. I also wonder about what you prefer in your partner’s grooming, those of you with female partners (I’m not addressing male pubic grooming here. Maybe I’ll do a separate post/poll on that). There are separate polls for women and their partners, and feel free to elaborate in the comments, anonymously if you feel more comfortable that way.
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I didn’t vote because I always liked them pretty much regardless. It is damn tough to improve on them.
I would prefer them NOT to be chewbacca.
Sage that’s hysterical! The Man added that he would prefer it not to be braided, either. LOL
peace…
I voted – I trim, and when I had a female partner, I preferred her to trim as well.
And when I say “I trim”, I mean I use a razor every 7-10 days or so. I know you said you weren’t going to address males, but I will anyway.
The Man trims/shaves every 7-10 days as well.
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I Veet around the edges so I don’t have hair growing in that little crease where leg meets pubic region, and a little across the top. I’ve trimmed it down a little in the past but mostly just it be.
It’s been months since I’ve bothered, so right now I’m rockin’ the full bush, and I rather like it. But if I start swimming again, I’ll definitely be making sure I don’t have pubes poking out of my swimsuit!
I trim about 4 times a year – just enough to keep it neat and not too wild. But I still leave it quite long, just tidier.
xx Dee
I don’t do anything to my pubic hair. I’ve trimmed in the past, but never anything more than that. My pubic hair is pretty sparse anyway. It doesn’t grow on my thighs or too high up. It’s just neat and tidy on its own, and I just let it be.
I picked “I shave/wax completely bare” but these days I only take a bikini razor to my pubes about two or three times a week, so there’s always stubble. I used to shave every day, but now I’d much rather have stubble than ingrown hairs, yeowch! I like how I look when I’m freshly shaved, and I don’t mind a couple days worth of hair, but after that, it’s a bother. I feel so much cleaner without hair to deal with down there.
I shave completely bare, mostly because to me that is way less work than leaving some hair left in a pattern of some sort (and a landing strip counts as a pattern
). I tried not shaving for a while, but the itching drove me crazy! And that was not the itching you have after a few days of not shaving, but the kind that happens when pubic hair which is a bit on the inside of your labia, is irritates your vulva.
I am quite hairy, so the hair goes up to my legs, and my whole vulva is completely covered, and I just prefer it without, feels very smooth. For others I don’t care much what they have: whatever they feel comfortable with
I rarely shave when I’m not going to be having sex – it’s such a pain and my skin is so sensitive. This week I will try sugaring. If that is kinder and gentler than waxing I may keep it bare on a regular basis. I like the way it feels bare but it’s more work than I’m willing to put in!
For me it is not an “looks” thing. I just don’t like to put my face in a hairy spot. I also don’t like facial hair on men. But that is just my personal feeling.
I used to be meticulous about my grooming when I was young, straight and enslaved by patriarchal standards of beauty, but lately I’ve been playing with my body hair and I love the different ways it can look. I mostly alternate between waxed and trimmed when it grows back out. I love the look and feel of body hair but having a lot is just inconvenient when I’m bleeding or getting laid.
My girlfriend shaves her outer labia but keeps hair on the mons, I trim it all to 1 milimeter with an electric razor, about once every two weeks.
I’ve found this: http://fuckyeahhairy.tumblr.com/ to be a really nice celebration of women’s body hair.
Awesome, thanks for the Tumblr link! I follow quite a few “hairy men” Tumblrs, but I hadn’t found a “hairy women” Tumblr yet. I posted some pictures of women with bush a while back, too, if you’re interested. It’s here.
I used to shave everything off, but I’ve found that I’m more orgasmic when I’m not scraping around with a razor every few days. T says that there are things he likes about both, so he doesn’t have any expectations either way. I grew all of my hair out after about six years of going bare, and I was pleasantly surprised to find that my hairs are light, thin, and somewhat sparse in addition to being nice and soft. I kind of wish I’d stopped shaving sooner.
Lately I’ve been debating growing the hair back. I haven’t had it in years so I don’t really recall what it was like! In my early 20s I would just shave the bikini line and trim the hair every so often.
However, I generally prefer hairless for various reasons – first, I’m just not into body hair; second, I like the smooth feel of shaved labia (on myself and other women) and how natural lubrication spreads over it easily; third, I prefer if there isn’t hair to trap sweat and odor. I know, I know, it’s perfectly natural, but I can be a bit squeamish about that. When I’ve gone down on women with hair they seem to taste more… pungent… than those who are shaved or trimmed really short.
That said, as long as a partner washes regularly I wouldn’t turn them down.
I shave completely because personally, I like the feel/look of it. I started doing it before I had a partner, and kept it up in times I didn’t have a partner. I shave on average of every third day. There has been times where I have gone a week or so, but I get annoyed with it before my partner does.
As for other women, I voted other, because my preferences are a couple of the answers. Either trimmed/styled on the mons, or shaved completely. To me, it is a sexier feeling than hair done there.
I used to shave it all off, but I grew tired of the irritation and all that work keeping it up. Now I use a beard trimmer about once a month to keep it short and well maintained. Too long and it feels kind of icky to me, but when its short it’s actually super soft. I’ve found that more and more lately I’ve been enjoying the look of a well maintained bush on other women. Its something different since so many women are bare and it just seems more womanly and therefore sexier.
i shave from the front to the back just leaving the hair on top~i’m not very hairy so there’s is no need to trim the hair left on top
It’s interesting that you need confidence to not shave and I need it to go bare. I don’t particularly like the way I look without some hair. I’ve also had this idea that it makes me more “girlish”. Hair has always been symbolized with womanhood. I’m over that now. I shave bare or just trim depending on my mood, but in general I like having “some” hair down there.
I had been shaving bare since I started getting pubic hair. (I was 12 or 13…and I just thought you were supposed to shave *all* the hair that grew in that wasn’t there before… clearly I was lacking in instruction on the matter.)
Only lately, when it was requested that I grow out a little patch, did I actually have any compliment of pubic hair… And I like that little patch. It makes me feel more. . . womanly, somehow. More beautiful and natural. (This is just me personally, mind. I don’t really have a preference for hair/no hair on other women or as a look in general.)
Of course, my hair is very fine-textured and blonde, so not a lot grows in anyway (I don’t have to shave my legs ever, for instance)…but still.
I only have to shave once every week or so because my hair doesn’t grow quickly. I like it bare or with just a little stubble if I don’t feel like shaving. I like the feel of it better and I feel itchy when I have hair down there so I never let it get too long before I have to shave it.
For me, it’s not about looks. It’s about how it feels. I don’t think trimming is bad and I don’t think leaving alone and never shaving, trimming or waxing is bad. If it’s a woman I’m going to fool around with, I don’t mind if she has some hair but I’d rather not have to pick pubes out of my mouth. Or worse yet, get one stuck in my throat. That sucks. Though if she chooses not to shave and it’s there, it won’t stop me honestly. I go either way on it when it comes to other people. Whatever they like is fine. For me? I hate having body hair. I shave my arms too just because I prefer having smooth, hairless skin all over.
i’ve considered shaving/waxing my arms actually, but it always seemed to be more trouble than it was worth…
I don’t have a lot of hair on my arms so it only takes me a few minutes to get both arms done. For me, it’s easier than shaving me legs. I’ve actually never thought of waxing my arms though. I’ll have to try that next time and see if I like it better.
Yay, body hair poll! I voted ‘I do nothing’ and it’s true; I’ve never had any desire to do anything to my pubic hair. Because my legs are thick at the tops and they rub together, I have no hair on the insides of my thighs or in the crease between leg and pubic mound (although if I did have hair in those places I doubt I’d want to get rid of it). In the past two years I’ve also stopped shaving my legs and underarms because…I just don’t care enough and I really like having hair there.
As for preference in a female partner, I’m strongly attracted to women with a fair amount of hair down there. But it wouldn’t matter either way; whatever makes that person feel good and comfortable.
I shave completely every other day. For me, it’s an issue of sensitivity. I am more orgasmic when I’m bare….I’m all for heightened sensitivity
I am in agreement with a bit of fur. My significant other Georgia keeps it nice and trim, I get to create the design.
JM
i trim – i started trimming for my own sake really, i just think it looks nicer, neater, and feels more pleasant. now and again i let it grow out a bit when i’m in the mood to do so.
i don’t really care what my partner does, as long as it’s not a super-long, tangled bush. i’d expect that to make eating-out more difficult!
a shaved cunt does strike me as attractive – just as much as any other sort of grooming, i guess. i tried shaving once, but i just didn’t like it. it looked nice at first, but then got itchy, and the next day i already had stubble (i’m a pretty hairy person… or i would be if i didn’t groom myself), and i realized i’d have to continue shaving pretty much every day… and decided, fuck that.
i was also paranoid about the hair that grew closer to my lips, where the skin is softer, moister and more vulnerable. i ended up with a “line” of hair at my lips because i was too afraid of cutting myself to shave it. does anyone else have this problem? i’ve always wondered how people deal with that.
It all depends on my mood… and that mood is usually “I hate shaving and I think my pubic hair is pretty” so I usually stick with trimming or I do nothing with it until it annoys me and I just take it all off.
I prefer to trim. I do it about once or twice a month, depending on how often I see my partner. I would let it grow freely, mostly because I’m so lazy, but it does become unruly after a while so i trim because I know it can get in the way when my partner is trying to go down on me. I do love the way I look and feel with a well trimmed bush (and so does my partner). I feel extremely womanly and sexy. As for my partner, I prefer at least some hair on her. She tends to just leave a landing strip or triangle and I love it!