Master of His Own Domain: Ball Weights

I have always enjoyed my testicles fondled, scratched and held during intercourse. During the excitement phase in men the testicles swell slightly, retract towards the perineum, and the scrotum thickens and contracts to aid this movement. Pulling the testicles down during arousal increases the excitement for me. During the plateau phase pulling the testicles can help stave off orgasm and generally make the pre-orgasm state more intense.

I often practice orgasm control, edging, or peaking. Whatever one calls it, it is the act of keeping yourself on the edge of orgasm as long as possible without ejaculating. I almost always hold my testicles down between two fingers while masturbating to help control not going over that edge. Orgasm control is easier accomplished during masturbation since one can instantly sense the stimulation needed to maintain the state. Edging is harder with a partner and takes constant communication and direction until you learn one another sufficiently. If too much or too little intensity is applied you can drop out of the plateau. I have been sexually satisfied from this technique without orgasm and find the still horny afterglow quite enjoyable. Hours or days later, when I do finally come with a lover, the release of sexual and emotional tension is pretty amazing.

When I feel horny I enjoy the feeling of my balls being pulled and played with. I have used rope, small dog collars, leather straps, and the like, to stretch the scrotum and keep my testicles distended from my body. The feeling is comforting and a nice prolonged prelude to play later. My favorite method of accomplishing this is with ball weights. These usually consist of a split collars that actually bolts around the scrotum just above the testicles. There are some simple ring types collars, but because the testicles move and change in size with blood flow, having a device that actually bolts on, with a smaller final diameter is really imperative for extended wear. I have tried many different design and brands of weights and Gear Essentials makes the best.

Most that I have tried were poorly made and slight mismatched portions of the collar would cause pinching. Also the finish and quality of the metal is important to be able to withstand perspiration, repeated use and avoid skin abrasions. Just by holding the weights made by Gear Essentials in my hand I can see the quality. My impression is the makers of these toys must actually use their product and it shows! Wearing ball weights under a loose pair of sweat pants is one of my favorite things to do. The feel of heft on my nuts and the lumbering movement of them while I walk, or just stand there, is quite sensual.

Gear Essentials sends all their ball weights in an attractive black drawstring back with their logo on the front. With each collar they send a small tube of silicone lube and an Allen wrench. The collar has a press fit pin in one side and a socket head screw on the other. I have used collars with a screw on each side and some of this type and this is the only brand I found that is easy to apply and does not pinch once tightened. I usually start by placing the section with the pin under my sack and placing the other section on top with the wrench already in place. Some careful pulling and stretching of my balls and sack allows the two sections to come together. Once there I hold them together tighten the screw slowly, while carefully ensuring all the skin is out from between the sections.

Once the sections are together applying silicone lube inside the collars prevents sticking and allows for the collar to float rather than pull unevenly. Here is a picture of me wearing the 24 oz (1.5 lbs) weights while standing. I love the way they look and feel. These are by far my favorite toy. I have worn them during sex for short periods, however doggy style is not recommended due to the fact the collar will bang on her clit (not always a bad thing). I have worn ball weights during masturbation, or just worn them because I simply enjoy it.

I have purchased three weights, the 16 oz, 24 oz and 32 oz and wear whichever I am in the mood for.
Gear Essentials offers 4 sizes and you can check them out here. The heavier the collar the longer it is and tends to pull available skin from around my penis making an erection not as comfortable. However the greater heft is pleasurable.

They give directions for sizing and this can be important. Too tight and they wont go on easily, too loose and they can come off. It is not easy to catch a free weight in your pants leg while walking in the mall!

I have always been into CBT in general and find this toy scratches that itch well. If you think you might be into the sensation of feeling the essence of your manhood gently tugged and cradled through your daily activities perhaps you may want to try some yourself!

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  1. Gray
    Posted December 6, 2009 at 5:07 am | Permalink

    Wouldn't using them a lot cause stretching? Just a thought I had. Very nicely written. :)

  2. Hubman
    Posted December 6, 2009 at 11:05 am | Permalink

    I never knew such a toy existed. My curiosity is piqued…

    Nice picture ;-)

  3. Dangerous Lilly
    Posted December 6, 2009 at 11:21 am | Permalink

    At the risk of coming off wrong – I had always assumed (incorrectly, I guess) that CBT and such was for submissive men. I know, this is a generalization and those are never good.
    How did you get into this sort of stuff?
    And 3rd….doesn't it hurt?? I had always thought that testicles were fragile things, easily hurt, but you've got a hefty 1.5 pounds pulling them down and pressing on them.

  4. Profligacy
    Posted December 6, 2009 at 2:10 pm | Permalink

    Gray – I know some people have the objective to stretch there. I guess if you wore them enough more skin would be created to accommodate? If you pulled hard enough you could tear and create stretch marks perhaps? I don't think I do it often enough for that and it is not my intent. I have done it for many years (10+)and have noticed no change in that regard.

    Hubman – Thanks! If you like the sensation in general you might like it!

    Dangerous Lilly – I talked to a Domme once that could not accept the fact that just because I had a Prince Albert piercing, and liked CBT, it did not mean i was a sub. I do have a high pain threshold but I do not enjoy pain or the idea of being dominated.

    I got into it while masturbating. Keeping them distended while on the edge intensified the feeling.

    Typically sudden sharp blows hurt like hell, like a knee for example. I shall pass on that. Slow constant tugging does not. 1.5 lbs sounds like a lot and the kinky visual it creates it rather hot, but that can easily be created with a loving tug. I have pushed myself to take much more. During orgasm the bodies ability to sense pain, and how that affects orgasm is an interesting dynamic. For instance nails digging into your back leaving bleeding scratches during orgasm is probably something most men could relate to. When that is going on I rarely feel it, I just know I felt damn good.

    I have subs pull a bit during HJs and such. But I am directing, and giving the orders on what to do, how long, how hard, etc. I still feel in charge and that I am giving direction on how to please me.

  5. slave b
    Posted December 6, 2009 at 2:15 pm | Permalink

    Thanks for the write up, i might suggest getting something like this to Mistress for her to use on me – she does love keeping me right on the edge sometimes :-)

  6. eva
    Posted December 6, 2009 at 6:43 pm | Permalink

    What a great picture of them in use! I first just looked at the pictures, and thought the lube was super-glue, and that you super glued the weights shut, ha ha..

  7. RavenQuince
    Posted December 6, 2009 at 7:32 pm | Permalink

    Really great review. I've never understood ball weights until now. Thank you for the lesson. (Oh, and nice picture!)

  8. champagneandbenzedrine
    Posted December 6, 2009 at 7:52 pm | Permalink

    And more importantly; from the tan lines in the picture, nobody needs wonder about Master's choice of underwear any more. ;-)

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