My Fingers Are Crossed

No matter what else is going on in my life, or anyone else’s right now, this is the most important thing that will happen today.

My fingers are crossed tightly. I am hoping against hope that California will join the ranks of the five (yes?) other states that currently allow same-sex marriage. I’m hoping against hope that all those couples that have been married in California will get to keep those rights. I’m hoping against hope that California will be one more domino to fall in this horrible game we’re playing that has lasted entirely too long.
I hope against hope that we will be one step closer to equal rights for everyone. Everyone’s love deserves the same respect. Whether it’s man and woman, man and man, woman and woman, or some other combination of sex/gender/PEOPLE entirely, we all deserve our love to be recognized and respected equally.
And my fingers are crossed.
EDIT: While I’m really sad about the court’s decision today, I can at least take comfort in the fact that all of those couples that were married will still have their marriages recognized. But I’m still so sad for all the people that still do not have the right to legally marry the person that they love.
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  1. The Promo Homo
    Posted May 26, 2009 at 6:06 am | Permalink

    I'll be on the front lines all day today with the grassroots organizations I'm involved with.

    Thank you so much for posting this and sending us your well wishings.

    If it doesn't go in our favor today, it will eventually, we are in full swing here on the marriage equality front. Amazing people, everyone. I'm glad to be a part of this.

    With that said…. *crosses fingers and gets rally boots ready*

  2. The Promo Homo
    Posted May 26, 2009 at 6:08 am | Permalink

    Also, I find it fitting that I have "Don't Stop Believing" from Glee playing on repeat right now. Totally not a coincidence.

  3. champagneandbenzedrine
    Posted May 26, 2009 at 7:14 am | Permalink

    I just think it's sad it had to be 'fixed' by the courts – I can't believe the people in California voted for Prop 8. And now that the SC has dealt with it, all the retarded conservatives are going to accuse them of 'legislating from the bench' and undermine the importance of same-sex marriage with a load of constitutional codswallop.

  4. Meg
    Posted May 26, 2009 at 9:37 am | Permalink

    Mine too, Brit. Mine too.

  5. The Promo Homo
    Posted May 26, 2009 at 12:22 pm | Permalink

    nooooooooooo :(

    hitting the streets tonight.

    Rally locations across the country:


  6. April
    Posted May 26, 2009 at 2:42 pm | Permalink

    Man that's such a shame! I'm sad. =(

    You go Promo!!!

  7. {{ d a n i m o }}
    Posted May 26, 2009 at 2:54 pm | Permalink

    i hate finding out about this via text message. gah.

    it sucks 'cuz in san diego, i'm always on the streets to march or rally for or against this or that. but in la i don't have much independence. elias likes to do everything with me but he's too quiet and shy to be political the way i am, the loud way. lol and we live too far from anywhere for me to travel there without him anyhow. blech.

  8. Southern Sage
    Posted May 27, 2009 at 2:09 am | Permalink

    Well of course I have a different take. I don't the court should make law. The people voted and thats how it should be.
    If the people don't have a voice then we might as well be in communist Russia. Where the government makes personal decisions. See you have to understand that if the courts get to decide then what of the will of the people? You also must think that sometime the court might reverse and over turn.

    All that being said I have blogged many times that I don't care who marries who or who marries what, I don't, if it doesnt cost me money or hurt kids then I dont care, I think if they wanna the marry em up, hell they surely will have a better record than hetero's do!

    All states will allow within the next 5-10 years, by vote.

    Think about it, you really don't want 5-10-15 people to over turn the will of the majority. They will do it right before lng I assure you. I have never missed a political prediction.

    Good post, but I would advise to educate and try to persuade the PEOPLE and not the courts to make the right call.

  9. The Promo Homo
    Posted May 27, 2009 at 4:35 am | Permalink

    Southern Sage:

    First of all, it is never right for a majority to vote on the rights of a minority. These things should not be put to a vote in the first place when it comes to civil rights of Americans. I'd also like to point out that the courts had to overturn the voters decisions on interracial marriage back in the day. Uneducated bigots should not get control just because they are the majority vote. No. Not right.

    Secondly, there were something like 2 million votes that were actually never counted. There was a CONSTITUTIONAL REVISION that happened to TAKE RIGHTS AWAY from citizens with only a 4% difference (52% ruled YES and 48% ruled NO), but in actuality we will never know because the absentee ballots were never counted.

    And don't you even get me started on Mormons that moved to CA just in time to vote Yes on 8 and then moved back to wherever they came from.

    Your logic is fucking flawed. When do I get to vote on your civil rights? If it effected you at all, you'd not fall back on the "oh it's what the voters wanted" bullshit.

  10. Britni TheVadgeWig
    Posted May 27, 2009 at 8:05 am | Permalink

    Sage: I think that if you look back through my archives, you will notice that I DO try to implore the people to vote for same-sex marriage and not just the courts. Try here and here.

    And Promo Homo makes a very good point re: interracial marriage. Do you mind if I ask, I know that you state that you don't care who marries who, and I know that we fall on two very different sides of the political fence. I know you vote Republican, which is pretty much against same-sex marriage, but if a bill/amendment like this was up for vote in your state (which it kind of was this election, and unfortunately passed, but I digress), would *you* vote for or against allowing same-sex marriage (as decided by, YOU, one of the people)?

  11. Butch
    Posted May 27, 2009 at 6:10 pm | Permalink

    My attitude is this:

    When the voters overturn Prop 8 (and they will), the courts now have precedent — no, you can't overturn it through the courts. Try voting on it again. What's good for the goose and all that.

    If you look at demographic trends in polling, marriage equality is inevitable. It's sad that it will take a few more years, but at least we know the next victory will be permanent.

  12. {{ d a n i m o }}
    Posted May 28, 2009 at 5:43 am | Permalink

    i still can't believe this has become such a nationwide topic. i've been fighting in california since the beginning of this whole mess yet i never really understood how many lives it would touch. at least half of the people fighting this proposition aren't even residents of california! i was surprised to read so many e-mails from around the country thanking me before november's election for my dedication to and work for the cause. it just goes to show how fucking united we are and how pure of a cause this is to transcend arbitrary borders and boundaries.

    i love you, sage, but when people use the argument that "the voter's have decided and that's that," i find it absolutely deplorable. one citizen cannot have the power to take away the rights of another. that's just not the america that i know.

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