Thursday’s Child has a great post up about ignorance regarding the labels that people use to define themselves. She says, “I don’t know what those terms mean – gay, queer, femme, butch, boi, pansexual. Gay and queer aren’t the same thing? I openly admit my ignorance because I want to learn and I want to do so without offending anyone.”
“I’m queer. I’m not straight and I’m not gay. I’m a little bent (hence, not straight). I won’t take offense to being called bisexual. That label seems to be one that most people can understand. But I personally identify as queer. To me, queer is not straight. And I am not straight. I’m a fan of saying that I fall in love with fabulosity, not genitalia. I like who I like, regardless of gender or sex. I just personally prefer “queer” to “bisexual” because I feel like it is a less rigid definition and is inclusive of people who may be genderqueer. If I say I’m bisexual, it implies that I am only attracted to men and women. If I say I’m queer, it allows for the inclusion of men, women, FTMs, MTFs, and any gender variance in between.”
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I define myself many-a-ways, depending on my mood:
queer, gay, lesbian, dyke, a big homo, the promo homo (heh), etc.
I'm not very picky personally. Just dont call me butch or I'll freak out.
*blinks*
My verification word is "unflat".
It made me think of boobies and how I like 'em.
Very thought-provoking. I like the way you are describing queer. I've always known I wasn't 100% straight. At one point I came out to my family, so they would know I was equally likely to date a girl or a boy. When pressed, I usually use the term bisexual, but I am going to think about your use of the word queer. I would date a transgender person…it's actually something I think about. There is so much to my sexuality I've not yet explored…but I'm open. That is really how I identify – as open.
I try to never limit myself with labels but people are so demanding of them sometimes it seems (I'm sure you know exactly what I mean).
I like women, I love men. That's really the easiest way to say it. Even though I like women sexually, I don't know if I could ever have a full penis free relationship. lol
Alana, I call that "heteroflexible!"
It means someone who will sleep with people of both sexes but that only have relationships with the opposite sex
Thanks! That'll work for me.