Day 9: Someone You Wish You Could Meet

Do you know who I want to meet most of all?


And so, I’m going to take this post as an opportunity for you to introduce yourself to me, especially those of you that lurk in the background. Who are you? I’d love to know!

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  1. MoonshineSunlightNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 12:40 am | Permalink

    I guess I’ll start.
    Hi Britni! I’m Sylvia! I’ve been following your blog for well over 3-4 years now,
    starting around the time I was 15 or 16, when I had conflicting feelings about my sexuality. I “knew” for the longest time that I was bisexual, but couldn’t express it as my mother is extremely homophobic and very Christian. This was also right after my rape, so I found so much solace in your blog. I laughed and cried over so many over your posts because I felt like I finally had someone to relate to (the only friends I had at that time were ultra-conservative also.) Brit, I feel like I have so much to thank you for because you definitely showed me that it’s okay to be different and okay to be comfortable with who I am at a time when I really wasn’t.
    So thank you, really, just for being you.

    Hah, well beyond that my favorite colors are midnight blue and purple, I have an obsession with punk rock, indie music and cats and I find almost all people beautiful. I know how to play a bit of piano and like to sleep a lot, and am eventually going to be an occupational therapist.

    Thank you for this lovely post.

  2. Jess ManifestoNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 1:15 am | Permalink

    I am Jess. Ok, so you already know me.
    Drunk texter, chronic poor decision maker, lover of beards, math enthusiast and badass MC.


  3. TaylorNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 3:14 am | Permalink

    I’m kind of a lurker… I don’t really remember how I stumbled across your blog, but I really love that you are sex-positive and not afraid to talk about yourself (and to talk about yourself as a work-in-progress, which is really admirable). I added you to my Google Reader and I guess I’ve grown attached! I hope you do really well in Boston, I think it’s badass that you just went for it. Anyway to introduce myself, my name is Taylor, I’m 20 and a junior in college. I live in Georgia and I’m queer and definitely a feminist, which is another reason your blog appeals to me.

  4. EveNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 4:10 am | Permalink

    I comment here and there, but I consider myself mostly a lurker. So I guess this is sort of a (re)introduction? Anyway, I’m Eve. I’m a queer feminist, college student, sexual abuse survivor, high school dropout, weird person, language nerd, and library worker from California. I’m just a couple years younger than you. I’ve been reading your blog for about a year, and yours is one of my favorite blogs ever. I’m always excited whenever a new post shows up on my feed. I like your attitude, your unapologetic stance on rape culture, your product reviews and dedication to sex-positivity and safe sex (esp. safe sex toys), and what you have to say about racism, sexism, homophobia, and other messed up things in the world. You write about a lot of things that I can relate to (and some things that I can’t, but I still like to read those). Last year your blog inspired me to share in my blog the story of the childhood sexual abuse I experienced. Thanks for that, by the way. I’m still finding my way as a blogger, but reading your blog always makes me feel more inspired to write and not care so much what the people reading it might think of me. After all, life’s too short to hide the things you care about. I’m not sure what else to say. I guess the rest is on my blog. I’m really enjoying the 30 Days of Letters, by the way. I might have to try it myself.

  5. tonya cinnamonNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 7:44 am | Permalink

    i am the red haired blue eyed imp that comes back to lurk on your site and comments once in a while ;)

    waves at you… how has your trip been so far?

  6. AnaNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 9:41 am | Permalink

    Well, I’m just a 20 year old portuguese girl fascinated by your thoughts and your writing :) Your blog is one of my favourites. I do not agree with everything you write, but that’s the beauty of it! I think I’m open minded enough to really enjoy reading all your posts.

    Thank you and I hope you never stop writing :) I wish you all the luck.

  7. CoryNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 11:19 am | Permalink

    I’ve been following you since Boston.. 2005, I think? We share a mutual friend, Molls.

  8. PeterNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 12:06 pm | Permalink

    Hello Britni,

    I am Peter, a single, straight male in his 40′s, from Perth, Western Australia. I consider myself to be a liberal, progressive thinker.

    This is my first comment on your blog, eventhough I found it about a yeah ago, probably by clicking on links provide at a blog like “Girl with a One Track Mind” Unlike several other blogs that I have sampled since then, I have bookmarked your blog and read a considerable amount of the entries from previous years.

    I am in awe of your courage and of your honesty. Your sex-positivity, your consistent and continuing demand for gender and sexual preference equality and your participation and interaction in the blogging community mean that I continue to look forward to your posts. Your posts have provided an insight into many different aspects of sexuality and continue to play a part in assisting me be a more accepting person, to be a better liberal progressive thinker, especially in the face of the conservative reactionary mainstream media’s impact on society.

    Congratulations on your bold move to Boston, a place where I hope you find a much more welcoming and comforting community, a place where you can be you.

    All the best.


    PS: Holly from a pretty good blog is in Boston.

  9. SkyddsDrakeNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 12:38 pm | Permalink

    I pipe up on occasion, but I suppose I’m largely a lurker as well. My name’s CJ, but I generally go by Sky around the net. *Shrugs*

    At any rate, I caught wind of your blog through the sex blogging community. I got hooked when I realized you wrote about real things, and things I cared about. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy a lot of the humor that can be found around, but sometimes I want to read something with substance that I can relate to… Guess that’s why I keep coming back. Thank you for your posts. :)

  10. BlaizeNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 2:16 pm | Permalink

    I don’t really feel like talking about myself, but I glad I found your blog. You’re interesting.

  11. BlaizeNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 2:17 pm | Permalink

    *I’m glad. I swear, my brain is becoming a cheese.

  12. SaNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 2:50 pm | Permalink

    Dear Britni, have been reading you from France for quite some time. I love your blog. VoilĂ !

  13. LindsayNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 3:21 pm | Permalink

    Just a 27 year old broad who’s been reading you for ages. I don’t remember how I stumbled onto you, but I know its been years. I haven’t always agreed with everything you’ve done/said but I think you have pushed me to think about my prejudices and become more open-minded. I can’t wait to read about your new life in Boston.

  14. JaneNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 6:32 pm | Permalink

    Hi Brit,

    I’ve been reading your blog for about a year and a half now. I’m bisexual, and extremely sexual, but seem to be unintentionally going for the World’s Oldest Virgin award (I’ll be a 23 year old virgin in September– i mean virgin in the no-one-besides-me-has-had-any-contact-with-my-genitals way). I live vicariously through your experiences, and just generally really enjoy reading about your life.

  15. BatNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 7:55 pm | Permalink

    I started reading your blog back when you were in Boston the first time. I think I found it through HNT. I lurk mostly. It’s what I do.

  16. AmberNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 9:49 pm | Permalink

    Hi Britni! I’ve commented…once, I think, but I’ve been reading you for at least a year. No recollection of how I found you, but you’re so likeable and I admire your openness and honesty so I have kept coming back. I’m an East Coaster living in Texas. I’m an engineer, feminist, artist, pretend foodie, and a legend in my own mind.

    I’d be reading you anyway, but since my husband and I are developing a plan to chuck our urban, corporate life and find something we can really be passionate about, I am doubly excited to read about your own reinvention.

  17. ImTheMarigoldNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 10:01 pm | Permalink

    Um…my name is Pam. I’m a closeted sub, if I’m ever willing to think about the thought of it and its thunderous ramifications for more then a minute. I came across this blog through Hysteria!’s blogroll. So glad I did. At times I live vicariously through your life and the bravery with which you tackle all of life’s experiences. I think I’ve only commented a few times. Sometimes I feel out of place, like I’m just pretending the things on your blog are a piece of me, whereas everyone else is just so free and open and accepting of who they are. But, thanks for having me. For as long as you’ll have me.

  18. BerylNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 10:26 pm | Permalink

    I’ve been lurking you since 2007 I think. It was back when I had a vanilla blog…Always liked it and heard that you had a cool blog project going on I think I’ll give a whirl…even though it freaks me out a little.

    Thanks for doing what you do.


  19. that girlNo Gravatar
    Posted August 2, 2010 at 10:45 pm | Permalink

    i am me. i am new here. nice to meet you. come visit me.

  20. JulieNo Gravatar
    Posted August 3, 2010 at 2:18 am | Permalink

    My name is Julie. I’m 24 (25 on August 17 – yikes) and I tend to keep my thoughts/comments to myself instead of sending them into the internet. I love your blog though I have no recollection of how I came across it. We have dealt with a lot of the same issues and I feel a connection to you despite our lack of communication. Thanks for being so open and honest about your life. I appreciate you and what you do.

  21. AnneNo Gravatar
    Posted August 3, 2010 at 5:53 am | Permalink

    I am a 22 year-old woman from Denmark. I’ve read your blog on and off for two or three years. You got lost, at some point, when you deleted your blog and created a new one, and it took me a while to find the new one – I believe I found it by accident through some other blogger, I found through Jezebel. ‘Cause that’s where I know you from originally.

    It is very interesting to read your blog. You are interesting, and have given me some eye-openers regarding a lot of sexual things. Feminism also interests me, so that’s great as well ;)

    I can’t think of what to tell you. I study computer science at the moment, I live with my boyfriend and a mutual friend.

    I’ve always thought communication was important in a relationship and in sex, but reading your blog has helped me articulate and understand a lot of things about myself and my sexual and emotional needs. For that I am grateful :)

    And now I’m going to go plant stuff in the gard with the boyfriend!

    I wish you the best of luck in Boston :)


  22. ThinkerbellNo Gravatar
    Posted August 3, 2010 at 8:29 am | Permalink

    Hey Britni,

    Cute Post! It made me smile.
    I’m Liz and I really like your blog and enjoy your Tweets. Mostly I’m lurking, I think I’ve just commented once or twice on here but I replied to some of your tweets ;) .
    Keep posting :)


  23. UnpossibleNo Gravatar
    Posted August 3, 2010 at 2:18 pm | Permalink

    Heya Britni,

    I’m Unpossible, a 27-year-old chronic lurker in San Francisco. I found you via Jezebel, and you always give me food for thought. Congrats on the move!

  24. larooNo Gravatar
    Posted August 3, 2010 at 5:08 pm | Permalink

    Britni, Ive commented several times, but mostly lurk. I respect your honesty and openess. I do have to say I fear some of the things you do and situations you get yourself into. I’m sure I’m not alone. On the other hand I aspire to do some of the things you’ve done. I’m two faced, I guess.
    Anyways, I’m a Southern California native. I’m a sexual, creative, happily married, artistic. human being that happens to be in a wheelchair. I guess that’s why I like your blog. You make me think. I also love how you are so accepting of all walks of life. Plus, you’re freakin cute!

  25. JeannineNo Gravatar
    Posted August 3, 2010 at 6:19 pm | Permalink

    Hi Britni!
    I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now, although I can’t say where exactly I got here from. I mostly lurk, but comment every once in awhile.
    You constantly inspire me and help me come to terms with my past & how I deal with it. I completely admire you for being so open and honest with how you feel on various issues.
    I’m a 22 year old university student from Vancouver, BC.
    And I LOVE your blog!

  26. LeanneNo Gravatar
    Posted August 4, 2010 at 8:03 am | Permalink

    Hi I’m Leanne from Adelaide in Australia… I’m a lurker and have been reading your blog for a couple of years or so now. I love the way you write, and the things you write about. I find you fascinating, and always enjoy what you have to say.
    Glad to hear you have moved to Boston… i hope life treats you well there… I look forward to reading more about you, your life and your adventures.

  27. library ladyNo Gravatar
    Posted August 4, 2010 at 12:31 pm | Permalink

    Just wanted to say hi. I’m a long time lurker. I came here from Jez on a whim, and I haven’t looked back. I really enjoy your blog. You are an excellent writer and I look forward to your posts!

  28. JasonNo Gravatar
    Posted August 4, 2010 at 7:29 pm | Permalink

    Jason, from County Roscommon. Well, Galway now, but y’know. Hello.

  29. cozzieNo Gravatar
    Posted August 4, 2010 at 10:32 pm | Permalink

    I read your blog from Cozumel. It’s a refreshing burst of honesty. I think I might have found it when I was shopping for my very first very own sex toy, liked your review, and went on from there.

    I went to college in Beantown and loved it. Looking forward to hearing all about events out there too! Keep up the good work, you’ve been very eye opening!

  30. MortalNo Gravatar
    Posted August 5, 2010 at 11:37 am | Permalink

    I’m Ola, I’m a 16 year old girl living in New England. I found your blog about a year ago and it’s really changed a lot for me. It’s made me feel like a lot of the stuff I’m into, BDSM, gender fuckery and the like is not only normal but awesome. I got to a normal highschool and also take additional daily classes at a theater magnet school throughout the year. I act. not well but I do. I’m looking to go into something psychology related. Preferable neuroscience. I’m also dying to go to Boston for college.

  31. RemyNo Gravatar
    Posted August 5, 2010 at 7:38 pm | Permalink

    Hay oh hay, I’m Remy and I enjoy long walks on the beach, practicing witchcraft, foreign films, converting women to lesbianism, and destroying capitalism. 21, American Studies & Women’s Studies double major, feminist, pansexual, poly, kinky, cocky, snarky, generally awesome, blah, blah, fucking blah.

    I think I originally found your blog through Autostraddle and have been lurking since. We follow each other on tumblr~! Anyways, I (obviously) adore your updates. I mean, how could I not? Snark, intelligence, and kink, oh my!

  32. EvaNo Gravatar
    Posted August 6, 2010 at 5:32 am | Permalink

    Hello, I’ve followed your blog for a couple of years now, as I’m sure you’ve noticed. I’m 26, Norwegian, artistic, open minded and a bit weird.

    I find that the fact that you are surprisingly- sometimes shockingly- honest and open about your life and experiences, adds a valuable dimension to your posts on rape culture, feminism and gender. – The personal is political. I hope some people get drawn into your blog because of the sex-talk, and end up with a bit of a rape culture education!

    I’ll tell you more about myself over a few beers if you ever go on holiday to Norway ;)

  33. SamanthaNo Gravatar
    Posted August 7, 2010 at 8:58 pm | Permalink

    Hello! I’m mostly a lurker, but have on occasion come out to put a few comments here and there on your blog. I’m Sam, and I live in West Virginia – let me add, do NOT believe everything that MTV tells you about our state. I think they just have some beef with us or something.

    I’ve identified as a sub for a while, playing around with people from school, men I’ve met online, and significant others. I greatly enjoy your blog because it seems to literally touch on EVERY part of life, and I appreciate your view points and opinions. I hope you never end this blog anytime soon, and I imagine that if I ever get the chance to meet you in real life, I’d take you to get a drink and feel open to talk to you about anything. You’re so awesome! and I’m totally jealous of your wardrobe.

    So that’s me!

  34. Kiki-ChanNo Gravatar
    Posted August 8, 2010 at 12:26 am | Permalink

    Married, straight, female in Puerto rico.
    I married virgin to my first and only boyfriend.
    Turns out he is vanilla, while I like some of the exotic flavours.
    Anyway, I am trying to pervert him a bit :)
    I read your blog for inspiration.

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