When people, including The Bruiser’s friends, find out that we still sleep together even though we don’t talk or interact in any other capacity, their responses are always the same. “Don’t let him disrespect you like that.” “He’s treating you like that because you are letting him.” “Why are you letting him use you?” “If he’s able to have that kind of arrangement with a chick who is willing to fuck him even though he doesn’t speak to her, good for him.” “He only deals with you when he wants what he wants.”
But what people don’t seem to understand is that I’m using him, too. It’s a mutual using. Reciprocal. I don’t want a relationship with him. I don’t expect anything from him. I want sex. I want good sex. I want rough sex. And he can provide that. I don’t deal with him unless I want something, either. I don’t text him unless it’s to ask him to fuck me. I don’t talk to him in the bar and he doesn’t talk to me. Why is it so hard for people to grasp the concept that women are capable of using men for sex in the same way that men use women for sex?
I’m not “letting him disrespect me” because I don’t feel like it’s disrespectful to have a strictly sexual relationship. As long as the two people are on the same page, I don’t see a problem with it. Not every girl expects a loving relationship from the people that she sleeps with. Some of us just want a fuck buddy, a booty call, plain and simple.
I'm Britni, a snarky bitch and generally awesome person. I write about sex, love, and bullshit. If sex-positivity, discussions about BDSM and kink, queer issues, and topics that are completely inappropriate by society's standards make you uncomfortable, then this blog is not for you.
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Well said!