I just found out that my rapist was stabbed this weekend and is in the ICU. SHOCKINGLY, I can’t find it ANYWHERE in me to feel even remotely bad about it or care what happens to him.
Fuck you very much. Karma’s a bitch.
-
This site contains adult content and is not intended for anyone under the age of 18. Under 18? Click here:
-
Britni TheVadgeWig
I'm Britni, a snarky bitch and generally awesome person. I write about sex, love, and bullshit. If sex-positivity, discussions about BDSM and kink, queer issues, and topics that are completely inappropriate by society's standards make you uncomfortable, then this blog is not for you.
-
Get Yourself Off
Good Vibes 
-
-
See My Writing At
-
Watch Them Get Off
10 Comments
I can totally understand that. And I think it’s probably healthier not to care about people who do horrible, inexcusable things to us. I mean, when it comes to my abusive father, I’m hoping he’ll do me a favor and kick the bucket soon and forget to write me out of his will so I can pawn anything I inherit (it won’t be much, but Captain Asshat owes me). Callous? Maybe, but I don’t give a shit after all he put me through. I just hope karma’s a bitch to him too. Maybe I’ll get his car and sell it to pay for some therapy. And then maybe I’ll even start forgetting about him.
Here’s to not caring about horrible people!
I think not-caring is the way to go. I wish I could not care.
Ha ha I think that’s good news, he deserved it.
Outspoken Clitic: Maybe not caring for someone who doesn’t deserve it gets easier if you remember that a lot of people do not feel emotions as strongly as you do. If someone has proved to you that they can not engage in the feelings of others, then perhaps their inner emotional life also differs from yours in other aspects. It’s a common mistake to project feelings on other people, and feel sympathy for people based on one’s projected feelings.
Don’t get me wrong, I am in complete and utter sympathy for Brit and everyone else in this situation and side completely with them and know exactly where they’re coming from.
However, is what you’re saying; Forceably cut off your own emotions to the level of theirs? “..feel sympathy for people based on one’s projected feelings” doesn’t come into it with me. I personally feel sympathy with my own feelings, regardless of how the other person feels and their emotions – this is the reason I am sympathetic towards Brit and everyone else: It’s the actions I am sympathetic towards, not the amount of empathy Brit herself has towards others.
Frida: I replied to Outspoken Clitic’s comment, not to Brit’s post. I probably read too much into her short comment anyway! Got a bit carried away.. and here I go again:
My thought was that in abusive relationships, the victim often takes on responsibility for the abuser’s feelings, and thus find it hard not to care when bad stuff happens to the abuser – even after the relationship has ended.
What the “victim”(I hate that word) considers “bad stuff” might not be the same as what the abuser consider “bad stuff”, though, and realizing this can be cathartic. Not all abusers are psychopaths, but a lot of them do have psychopathic traits and experience emotion on a more shallow level. If one feels responsible for someone’s feelings, but discover that this someone does not actually have the feelings one feels responsible for.. then it’s a lot easier giving up the responsibility. There’s obviously lots of other good reasons for why one, as a victim, should not feel responsibility for an abuser’s feelings or wellbeing, but at least that’s one that can lighten the burden of carrying someone else’s problems on their shoulders for long enough to get a bit of perspective, and free up energy that can be used for productive things such as taking care of one’s own problems.
Granted, being stabbed is generally considered bad by everyone- but, as Britni wrote, “Karma’s a bitch”, and I’m glad she can see it that way, as there’s other people who are more deserving of her sympathy, and can turn her sympathy/energy into more positive energy that will benefit us all.
I treat people I meet with respect, and generally agree with what you’re saying on a day-to-day basis. I don’t believe in cutting off one’s emotions to the level of others – but I do believe in channelling one’s emotions and energy to places/people/situations where it will not be wasted, but received in a manner that will help it grow into more positive energy for oneself and others.
I’m not saying rapists or abusers doesn’t need help– they do! But not from their victims.
Jeez that was a lengthy reply!
I love when the universe pwns someone who really deserves it. My rapist got 16 years in prison after putting a teenage boy in critical condition by stomping on his head. All I felt was relief. Good riddance.
Paybacks a bitch. Asshole got what he deserved for the horrible thing he did to you!!!!
~Jessica~
I wouldn’t feel bad at all either. No reason to at all.
I had to smile for you and think about my own brush with karma. I am reflecting on my own experience, not making light of rape, which is horrible, and for which there is no excuse.
We had an abusive boss who was injured riding her new motorcycle, bought from her bonus earned off our hard work, and was out for a few weeks. Evidently, she did not learn from that brush with karma and was still extremely abusive. She was fired a year after she came back for obstructing progress, she was just as bad to the customer. We were in the process of documenting her abuse, but decided not to pursue any action after she was let go. Many people in the office were getting physically sick and stressed out from her mental abuse, so we were all happy when she was given an hour to get the heck out.