Today is my first appointment with my new therapist. I’m actually really excited and proud of myself for finally making the appointment I’ve been avoiding for so long.
One of my professors that knows me quite well recommended several people to me, and I looked them up before making some calls. I found it quite funny that two of the therapists that she recommended were Jungian in modality, which isn’t really my thing at all, but that they were also “men’s activists.” She knows I’m a queer feminist; why on earth would she ever recommend a men’s activism therapist to me? I found it funny. I did not call either of them.
Anyway, here’s to moving forwards and making progress!
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What the heck is a "men's activism therapist"? Seriously…
Glad to hear that you're going to talk with someone
I hope this helps you on your journey. Just remember to be honest, which I'm sure you will. We have 5 therapists in our office and one of the things they say they often find in their patients is that they come in looking to get validation for their actions/feelings. They do this by not being completely honest. As a therapist, I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.
Anyway, I'm proud of you!
I am so happy you are going! =)
Yay! Goodluck! Xo
Good luck today! I hope this opens new roads for you.
Also, WTH was up with the recommendation of jungian, male ativist therapists? I shudder to think of going for therapy and landing one of those.
I'm happy you are going. I think it will help you a lot to work through everything that has happened to you, from the rape to The Bruiser.
I worked with a counselor for a while when going through some anxiety/depression issues and it was a very good thing for me.
I dislike Jungian therapy as well. Good luck!
It's a good thing, ya know.
I'm proud of you for taking this first step
WTG, and make the most of it.
What exactly is a queer feminist?
yay! i hope it goes okay
take care luv.
Good luck Britni. Thinking of you.
The image accompanying this post reminded me of the time when I made myself a 'Lucy & booth' avatar in Second Life because of the way my friends and acquaintances would seek me out for some informal therapy when they were having problems.
I have no idea if I'm Jungian, and I'm pretty sure I'm not a men's activist! And for sure I'm not professionally qualified to deal with even the issues the Peanuts strip kids brought to Lucy!
I do hope you find someone well-qualified, experienced with others similar to yourself, and with whom you can find healing while retaining the essential parts of you. I look forward to reading more about this particular journey.
I thought most therapists today used a combination of Jungian, Freudian, CBT, etc as different tools in their tookit to deal with different problems. I'd be disappointed too if a therapist only offered one approach. It would be like taking your car to a mechanic who would only fix things that required pliers or jumper leads. (Actually, I think I've just described an auto electrician!)
Also, don't you have a professional supervisor – a therapist you see to offset the fact that you are dealing with everyone else's problems? Or is this therapist replacing the previous incumbent.
Maybe your professor wanted you to see a men's activist so that all your views and ideas would be challenged and tested – it's a good way to help you to challenge bad ideas out of existance so that you can put all your energy behind your good ideas.
Good luck with it all.
i hope it went well! i'm a day behind.
Orhan Kahn: I'm queer and I'm a feminist. Therefore, I'm a queer feminist.
Damian: I will address much of this in a separate post because I think you asked a lot of good questions.
Thank you for answering.
Though…
Isn't that like saying you're a female woman?
Also, I was under the impression you had sex with everything. Mostly men and women.
I am so confused.
Orhan, I still don't totally get your tone and often can't tell if you are kidding or not. If you're serious, well… um no.
Not all females are queer. And not all women are feminists. And not all queer people identify as feminist.
And, yes, that's what queer means. I don't discriminate based on sex or gender. I identify as queer and not bisexual because bisexual implies that there is a gender binary: men and women. I'm open to dating people of all genders: male, female, genderqueer, trans, and anything in between.
How would you think that queer meant that I only had sex with one gender or the other? Did you think that meant only women? If so, I would use the term "lesbian."
Hope that cleared things up!
It didn't. But thank you. I will have to consult my gay source to see if its just me… according to them you're "pansexual" and that queer is an ugly word. Also, they approve of your label Thundercock.
Personally, I like boobs. And beer. And pizza. My better half likes women also. She'd probably tap you. I don't know. If she was around right now I'd ask. Alls I know is that I'm a one woman-man, especially if that one woman can openly discuss fucking the shit out of other women with you. Thats win, win.