Crossing The Line

By Britni TheVadgeWig | Published: June 2, 2009

Related to this post, I recently had to block someone from Facebook that could not stop making inappropriate comments. I would have to keep my chat function turned off because EVERY TIME I signed on, he would try to talk to me. I never responded, but he never stopped. And the messages always said things like, “Dirty girl!” in response to a vague but possibly ridiculous status that I had up. So chat function remained off.

Then I posted a line from an old poem written by Adam Lambert that some people found on his MySpace page as my status. I thought it was hilariously, awesomely, ridiculously bad and fantastic. The line I posted was, “A crow moans in horny recovery. Rubbing a last one out amid coconut ghosts and spiderwebs.” In the comments on the status, I explained that it was from a poem written by Adam Lambert and posted the poem in it’s entirety (it’s called “Tormented”):

“Dawn.
The ink of night slow dances with muddled fire.
Jagged mountian tops in a breathy mauve peak out of vague camouflage.
A crow moans in horny recovery. Rubbing a last one out amid coconut ghosts and spiderwebs.
This alley cat block still a mystery to me.
On the roof. Seeking proof.”

I immediately got a message from the guy that said, “Rubbing one out? How is it?” REALLY?? Every time I talk to this person, he asks perverted questions which I NEVER answer. Not only that, does the line “rubbing a last one out amid coconut ghosts and spiderwebs” sound remotely erotic or sexual? It’s a fucking ridiculous line THAT I GO ON TO EXPLAIN THE SOURCE OF.

I recently had to block another guy from high school because he would chat with me every single time I was on Facebook and try to have cyber sex with me. This is not someone that I have ever hooked up with, flirted with, or shown any interest in. But he would message me asking what I was wearing, telling me he wanted me to suck his cock, and shit like that. When I would tell him to stop, he’d say, “You worked in a porn store. I thought you’d be cool with it.”

NO. JUST BECAUSE I WORKED AT AN ADULT TOY STORE DOES NOT MEAN I WANT TO HAVE CYBER SEX WITH EVERYONE ON THE PLANET. Just because I say the word “sex” doesn’t mean that I want to have it with you and doesn’t give you permission to be inappropriate and disrespectful.

FUCK, PEOPLE. Some dudes really fuck it up for the rest of them. It’s guys like this that make me so quick to get defensive or shut down when I’m asked about sex by potential suitors or males that I’ve just met.

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6 Comments

Ms. Inconspicuous

Posted June 2, 2009 at 9:41 am | Permalink

Misguided attempts at cyber-sex are so…disorienting. I'm not a fan anyway, and the inevitable, "If you were here, what would you be doing to me…" intro-to-cyber question comes up and I just groan.

champagneandbenzedrine

Posted June 2, 2009 at 1:43 pm | Permalink

"Some dudes really fuck it up for the rest of them."

True dat, Brit.

The Promo Homo

Posted June 2, 2009 at 3:25 pm | Permalink

Some guy added me on fb when I commented on your status and now I just realized that he isn't a mutual friend anymore…

was his name Dylan? If so… I'm erasing him. He sent me some message today and I was like "uhhhh".

Britni TheVadgeWig

Posted June 2, 2009 at 7:02 pm | Permalink

Ms. I, it is so lovely to hear from you! I hope all is well over in your neck of the woods and I miss your writing terribly.

Promo Homo, yup, that would be him. He friended me after I commented on a mutual friend's status, as well.

PrettyPrettyPrincess

Posted June 3, 2009 at 11:05 pm | Permalink

ugh. I hate that. I had a similar sitch the other night, where two guys I USED to have cyber sex with both saw me online and started trying to talk dirty with me. I said I didn't feel good and wasn't into it and one of the guys got the hint but the other one KEPT trying to get me into it. SO FRUSTRATING.

Epiphora

Posted December 28, 2009 at 5:22 pm | Permalink

I've had the same thing happen, although not as annoyingly, and thankfully not via the chat function. It just slays me that a guy can take anything REMOTELY sexual and turn it into an opportunity to be a douche.

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