Comments on: In and Out http://britisshameless.com/2010/10/in-and-out/ I'm nothing but a brash and impetuous girl striving to be true to myself while searching for somewhere to belong, someone to love, and a better version of me. Thu, 18 Nov 2010 02:47:46 +0000 hourly 1 By: preach http://britisshameless.com/2010/10/in-and-out/comment-page-1/#comment-15876 preach Thu, 21 Oct 2010 02:30:58 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3909#comment-15876 ....like being bi means you have to be AVAILABLE to fuck both men and women at any give moment. Marriage being forever and all, and our situation not being an open one, the plan is to never get to have sex with a woman again (sniff!) - but that doesn't change my desires/fantasies/identities one bit. It's nice to hear so many of you all having this same problem. ….like being bi means you have to be AVAILABLE to fuck both men and women at any give moment. Marriage being forever and all, and our situation not being an open one, the plan is to never get to have sex with a woman again (sniff!) – but that doesn’t change my desires/fantasies/identities one bit. It’s nice to hear so many of you all having this same problem.

]]> By: preach http://britisshameless.com/2010/10/in-and-out/comment-page-1/#comment-15875 preach Thu, 21 Oct 2010 02:28:53 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3909#comment-15875 PREACH, sister. Even more confusing is when you are fully settled with a man. I've always id'd as bi, but now I'm married to a dude and have a kid - I'm made to feel like I can't include myself in the community. It BLOWS. PREACH, sister. Even more confusing is when you are fully settled with a man. I’ve always id’d as bi, but now I’m married to a dude and have a kid – I’m made to feel like I can’t include myself in the community. It BLOWS.

]]> By: Polly Vincere http://britisshameless.com/2010/10/in-and-out/comment-page-1/#comment-15847 Polly Vincere Mon, 18 Oct 2010 21:23:14 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3909#comment-15847 Ditto. I've always been WAY more physically attracted to women than men. I've dated several different genders, openly and proudly. Yet when I go into the local gay/lesbian bars I am immediately shunned by women as too straight. When I go into straight bars and identify as queer I'm met with uncomfortable requests to sleep with other women for the viewing pleasure of men. Currently I am in love with a heterosexual cismale. He knows I'm queer, and he accepts that part of me. You know what? Even though the "community" doesn't always accept me, the fact that he loves my queer parts too is enough for me. Ditto.
I’ve always been WAY more physically attracted to women than men. I’ve dated several different genders, openly and proudly. Yet when I go into the local gay/lesbian bars I am immediately shunned by women as too straight. When I go into straight bars and identify as queer I’m met with uncomfortable requests to sleep with other women for the viewing pleasure of men.
Currently I am in love with a heterosexual cismale. He knows I’m queer, and he accepts that part of me.
You know what? Even though the “community” doesn’t always accept me, the fact that he loves my queer parts too is enough for me.

]]> By: SQWEAK http://britisshameless.com/2010/10/in-and-out/comment-page-1/#comment-15824 SQWEAK Fri, 15 Oct 2010 17:49:16 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3909#comment-15824 Same here, I wish I had more experience with women then but it's difficult to say the least. It’s easier just to date men and I feel the exact same way you do. I don't know how you can possible be Queer enough but I’m obviously not there. It’s surprising how many of us feel that way. Same here, I wish I had more experience with women then but it’s difficult to say the least. It’s easier just to date men and I feel the exact same way you do. I don’t know how you can possible be Queer enough but I’m obviously not there. It’s surprising how many of us feel that way.

]]> By: Dangerous Lilly http://britisshameless.com/2010/10/in-and-out/comment-page-1/#comment-15799 Dangerous Lilly Thu, 14 Oct 2010 01:24:01 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3909#comment-15799 Pretty much the only women I'd ever dare to pursue are ones I already know *for certain* are bisexual. Because of this attitude I've never tried to pursue lesbians, for the laughter I'd feel I'd surely be met with. Pretty much the only women I’d ever dare to pursue are ones I already know *for certain* are bisexual. Because of this attitude I’ve never tried to pursue lesbians, for the laughter I’d feel I’d surely be met with.

]]> By: Dangerous Lilly http://britisshameless.com/2010/10/in-and-out/comment-page-1/#comment-15798 Dangerous Lilly Thu, 14 Oct 2010 01:21:50 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3909#comment-15798 I wonder exactly the same thing. Is this attitude not obviously hypocritical to them?? I wonder exactly the same thing. Is this attitude not obviously hypocritical to them??

]]> By: r http://britisshameless.com/2010/10/in-and-out/comment-page-1/#comment-15792 r Wed, 13 Oct 2010 20:28:48 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3909#comment-15792 Aw. You're queer enough for me, pumpkin. My current gf is actually the first woman I have ever seriously dated who ISN'T bi. There are plenty of queer women willing to date bi girls. And, if that's what you want, I hope you find one to date soon. ;) Aw. You’re queer enough for me, pumpkin. My current gf is actually the first woman I have ever seriously dated who ISN’T bi. There are plenty of queer women willing to date bi girls. And, if that’s what you want, I hope you find one to date soon. ;)

]]> By: April http://britisshameless.com/2010/10/in-and-out/comment-page-1/#comment-15791 April Wed, 13 Oct 2010 20:27:48 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3909#comment-15791 Wow. It seems so hypocritical. I mean, the LGBTQ community fights for rights and societal acceptance (as they should), yet they shun some of their own for not being gay enough? I'm not being mean, but this just doesn't make sense to me. Wow. It seems so hypocritical. I mean, the LGBTQ community fights for rights and societal acceptance (as they should), yet they shun some of their own for not being gay enough? I’m not being mean, but this just doesn’t make sense to me.

]]> By: Eve http://britisshameless.com/2010/10/in-and-out/comment-page-1/#comment-15790 Eve Wed, 13 Oct 2010 17:52:44 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3909#comment-15790 Yes! Exactly this. I too consider myself more on the gay side of the spectrum than the straight side, but I mostly date men because they're easier to find. And pretty much everything you said here fits my situation. It's weird, like you can see inside my head. Nice to know someone else knows what it's like. I normally get a lot of blank stares when I talk about this kind of thing. Yes! Exactly this. I too consider myself more on the gay side of the spectrum than the straight side, but I mostly date men because they’re easier to find. And pretty much everything you said here fits my situation. It’s weird, like you can see inside my head. Nice to know someone else knows what it’s like. I normally get a lot of blank stares when I talk about this kind of thing.

]]> By: Another Suburban Mom http://britisshameless.com/2010/10/in-and-out/comment-page-1/#comment-15785 Another Suburban Mom Wed, 13 Oct 2010 11:10:26 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3909#comment-15785 Thanks for posting this Britni. I do want your readers to know that I asked that question out of genuine curiosity and was not being confrontational or rude. I never thought of not being "gay" enough. I had always assumed that there was a huge spectrum of gay from the butchiest butch to a very femme, its just a matter of finding your peeps. Thanks for posting this Britni. I do want your readers to know that I asked that question out of genuine curiosity and was not being confrontational or rude.

I never thought of not being “gay” enough. I had always assumed that there was a huge spectrum of gay from the butchiest butch to a very femme, its just a matter of finding your peeps.

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