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By: Frida

Frida — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 20:28:51 +0000

*meant no harm,

By: Frida

Frida — Thu, 09 Sep 2010 20:27:45 +0000

Or maybe it means ‘compromise’. Sometimes you do things you don’t overly personally enjoy because you know your partner likes it. Even in sex. And if compromise DOES happen in sex, that isn’t rape; The whole point of compromising is that it’s consentual and something the compromising party wants to do despite it not being a personal turn-on.

It’s not saying “If you don’t want to do oral at all, do it anyway because it’s all up to him”, it’s saying: “If you don’t like doing oral, but you want to anyway, every cloud has a silver lining – the better you get, the less time you’ll maybe have to spend on it.”.

Everything in the sex world can be read in three ways: One is that almost everything is threatening and anti-woman. Another is that everything’s completely fine. And the third, and most likely in this case, is that everything is completely fine in the writers’ heads, who meant no hard, but could be worded a little better for those who fall into the group who read things the first way.

By: MoonshineAndSunlight

MoonshineAndSunlight — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 21:05:13 +0000

I think this one disturbed me more
“Blow jobs shouldn’t always lead to sex. Also, if you don’t like doing the oral, think of it this way: The better you are, the less time it will take.”—Todd

If you don’t like doing oral, you shouldn’t have to do it, period. So WTF? They all sounds like douchebags, but this one really stuck out and unsettled me.

By: Elodie

Elodie — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 03:58:43 +0000

I hate the idea of that kind of list, even when they sometimes include positive messages. Anyone who believes all men think and want the same things is — well, stupid. Do the men quoted on that list really think so poorly of themselves? Do they think they’re that interchangeable? Sad.

By: Tania

Tania — Wed, 08 Sep 2010 02:00:22 +0000

When I read that the first time it didn’t seem overly offensive, but I got it when I read it again. I suppose what he meant was, as alana and mdove said, that just because you check someone out doesn’t mean you’d cheat on your partner with them. Still, what a terrible choice of words.

It’s strange how the general consensus in society is that checking out other people when in a relationship is just a ‘guy thing’. Girls do it too, we’re probably just more discreet about it.

That whole list is stupid, if you ask me, especially the ‘keep the sleeping around to a minimum’ one, because I’ve worried about telling people my number in the past. But I figure if they’re the type to hold something like that against me, then I don’t want them anyway.

By: Kate

Kate — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 23:41:32 +0000

Personally I think “Patrick” means more along the lines of what you’re saying… but even so, it does come across as threatening. What girlfriend deserves to be told that her man can’t really help himself and that she should be glad he isn’t cheating… yet…

By: Epiphora

Epiphora — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 20:46:14 +0000

Truth.

By: twg

twg — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 19:25:00 +0000

You’re welcome! I’ll try not to rape you tomorrow, too!

Ugh to all of this.

By: Eve

Eve — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 19:09:51 +0000

Yep, what you said.