Comments on: Promiscuity Done Right

By: Holmes - SASM

Holmes - SASM — Sat, 02 Oct 2010 04:24:21 +0000

I hear that. I always picture Julia Roberts in “Pretty Woman” saying, “I’m a safety girl,” as she waves a rainbow of condoms up for Richard Gere to choose from.

It’s a good thing.

By: Frida

Frida — Sat, 25 Sep 2010 23:45:51 +0000

Whoops, I missed this because I was only checking for replies to my own comment.

But yes, as HalfPint pointed out, I wasn’t making a diagnosis whatsoever, merely showing surprise that someone with as much interest and background in psychology as Britni could believe she could give herself an accurate self-diagnosis. I have no idea which it is (a problem or not) and never said either way.

I do apologise for coming across as confrontational on almost all of my comments on here to date – I do not have anything against Brit; I’m just one of those people that only tends to reply to things when I disagree with them, so take my bare minimum of posts on this blog as proof that I honestly do enjoy almost every other part of every other post!

By: Half Pint

Half Pint — Sat, 25 Sep 2010 17:53:12 +0000

Yes, keep up Ghouldilocks. The folks at http://www.asktheinternettherapist.com make a living doing just that. But, as I said earlier, no one on this thread has made any diagnosis.

By: Ghouldilocks

Ghouldilocks — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 10:13:33 +0000

Really, now? I didn’t know you could diagnose people that you don’t actually know via interwebz now!

I guess I just can’t keep up with all this new-fangled technology, these days.

By: HalfPint

HalfPint — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 04:44:03 +0000

No one here has made a diagnosis. Frida is saying that people don’t have the objectivity to accurately assess themselves, that there is a personal bias inherent in self-diagnosis. And she’s right.

By: White Knight

White Knight — Fri, 24 Sep 2010 03:46:05 +0000

[...] recently met another heroin addict. He knows what I do for a living, which is why I think he felt safe being so open with me about it. He knew I wouldn’t judge [...]

By: Frida

Frida — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 11:47:44 +0000

But that doesn’t mean you are immune to personal bias. That’s all I was saying. No person can objectively say “I don’t have a problem”, because they are tying their own feelings of what they are doing (which are obviously normally positive) into the equation, rather than ignoring that and looking at life objectively.

And when I say “obvious interest”, I mean it goes further than just having a degree in it – it’s a personal interest. I know plenty of people with Masters who couldn’t actually care less about the subject they got it in once they got a job not tying directly into the field.

I wasn’t trying to knock you with my comment – I was just hoping you might be the first to realise you can’t diagnose whether you yourself have a ‘problem’ with something.

By: twg

twg — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 01:29:01 +0000

The bitch about the “are you suuuuuuuure you don’t have a _____ problem?” Is that there really is no right answer, because if you say no, you’re just in denial. Way to diagnose via blog, ye fresh out o’ Psych 101.

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 21:39:51 +0000

I think I know what constitutes a “problem.” I’m a substance abuse counselor at a residential treatment program. I work with people in early recovery.

And my “obvious interest in psychology” is actually a Master’s degree in it.

By: Frida

Frida — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 18:22:46 +0000

You do realise that you aren’t the best judge of the whole drugs problem thing, right?

I’m not actually making any judgments, but I know never to completely believe someone when they go “I haven’t got a problem!”, because while half the time, they’re right, the other half (or more) are simply making excuses for their problems so as to not get anything (in drugs’ case; rehab) between them and their activities.

If you have had an actual session with an unbiased, trained professional who takes your lifestyle/finance/etc into consideration, and were totally honest about your drug use, and they say you don’t have a problem? Then you don’t have a problem. Or at least will far more likely get a good idea than your own personal opinion, which is at least a little clouded by your love of drugs.

Of course, you probably know all about this because of your obvious interest in psychology and probably have been completely honest about your drug use before to therapists and if they say you don’t have a problem, then sure. But if they said you do, and you still claim to not have a problem..that is where even bigger problems tend to start.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not judging at all; I have my own vices which probably are objectively a ‘problem’ in my life, and if they weren’t there, my life would be even better. But they simply aren’t a problem to me, since they aren’t causing me to go broke, lose friends or lose health.