Comments on: Maybe One Day I’ll Be More Than Just Sex To Someone http://britisshameless.com/2010/09/maybe-one-day-ill-be-more-than-just-sex-to-someone/ I'm nothing but a brash and impetuous girl striving to be true to myself while searching for somewhere to belong, someone to love, and a better version of me. Thu, 18 Nov 2010 02:47:46 +0000 hourly 1 By: Urge to Kill…Rising… « Confessions of a Nymphet http://britisshameless.com/2010/09/maybe-one-day-ill-be-more-than-just-sex-to-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-15620 Urge to Kill…Rising… « Confessions of a Nymphet Sat, 02 Oct 2010 14:31:27 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3823#comment-15620 [...] to Kill…Rising… I read this post by Britni and I really wanted to write something about it because I know exactly what she’s talking [...] [...] to Kill…Rising… I read this post by Britni and I really wanted to write something about it because I know exactly what she’s talking [...]

]]> By: Jaspyne http://britisshameless.com/2010/09/maybe-one-day-ill-be-more-than-just-sex-to-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-15593 Jaspyne Thu, 30 Sep 2010 18:07:09 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3823#comment-15593 Took me a long time to find the right guy who accepted me for who I am, and that included one broken engagement. I broke up with him because as soon as the ring was on my finger he became a whole different person and the sex stopped. It's a weird thing with guys, the Madonna/Whore complex. Like their mom's have some kind of x-ray vision and can see inside your panties ? Took me a long time to find the right guy who accepted me for who I am, and that included one broken engagement. I broke up with him because as soon as the ring was on my finger he became a whole different person and the sex stopped. It’s a weird thing with guys, the Madonna/Whore complex. Like their mom’s have some kind of x-ray vision and can see inside your panties ?

]]> By: MissMar http://britisshameless.com/2010/09/maybe-one-day-ill-be-more-than-just-sex-to-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-15539 MissMar Mon, 27 Sep 2010 04:09:46 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3823#comment-15539 Oh god, I could have used this post two weeks ago and again a few days ago. I had this same thing pulled on me by two different males. One only comes around for sex and makes sure I am not thinking this is going anywhere by falling off of the face of the earth before popping up a month later to try and get me to sex him up at his convenience. The second, let me know, 'Honestly, I am attracted to you physically and I would not mind fucking but you are not 'datable' material'. Thankfully, I let the second guy know he looks too awkward looking to even be more than a one night stand. Still, it really frustrates when you hear that you are only good for the sex and not to go beyond the bedroom. Thank you for this post because it makes me resolved to find better people who appreciate you for more than a roll in the hay. Oh god, I could have used this post two weeks ago and again a few days ago. I had this same thing pulled on me by two different males. One only comes around for sex and makes sure I am not thinking this is going anywhere by falling off of the face of the earth before popping up a month later to try and get me to sex him up at his convenience. The second, let me know, ‘Honestly, I am attracted to you physically and I would not mind fucking but you are not ‘datable’ material’. Thankfully, I let the second guy know he looks too awkward looking to even be more than a one night stand. Still, it really frustrates when you hear that you are only good for the sex and not to go beyond the bedroom.

Thank you for this post because it makes me resolved to find better people who appreciate you for more than a roll in the hay.

]]> By: she hates me http://britisshameless.com/2010/09/maybe-one-day-ill-be-more-than-just-sex-to-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-15535 she hates me Sun, 26 Sep 2010 19:21:38 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3823#comment-15535 sex is..... sweat, hormones, drool, smiles.... love is.... being able to have a serious conversation with someone while taking a poop with the door open. sex is…..
sweat, hormones, drool, smiles….

love is….
being able to have a serious conversation with someone while taking a poop with the door open.

]]> By: Miss Magenta http://britisshameless.com/2010/09/maybe-one-day-ill-be-more-than-just-sex-to-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-15534 Miss Magenta Sun, 26 Sep 2010 16:22:40 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3823#comment-15534 Hey there- I know it seems like utter bullshit when someone says 'Oh, I know how you feel' but I genuinely know how you feel. I get the same shit spouted back to me and it never feels any less hurtful no matter how many times you hear it. Following in the same vein as Sa, its like there's this barrier between liking sex and behaving yourself in front of the parentals- what, do they think you're going to spill the intimate details of your sex life at the dining room table do they? It's this kind of shit that shows how frickin backward and (in a lot of ways) sexist some guys still are; if a woman likes to grind then oh, she just *has* to be a whore 24/7 right? While I don't comment much, from what I have read of your blog Britni shows that you're intelligent and a strong soul. There's someone out there for all of us but unfortunately there are a lot of fucking losers out there. Don't give up hope- you'll find them in amongst these shitheads. xx MM P.s: My inner teen-movie-fetishist thought of the most immature and hilairous way to get R.E.V.E.N.G.E if they won't give you R.E.S.P.E.C.T- send them a gym sock with "Introduce THIS to your mum, arsehole :)". So stupid but hahahahahahah! Hey there- I know it seems like utter bullshit when someone says ‘Oh, I know how you feel’ but I genuinely know how you feel. I get the same shit spouted back to me and it never feels any less hurtful no matter how many times you hear it. Following in the same vein as Sa, its like there’s this barrier between liking sex and behaving yourself in front of the parentals- what, do they think you’re going to spill the intimate details of your sex life at the dining room table do they? It’s this kind of shit that shows how frickin backward and (in a lot of ways) sexist some guys still are; if a woman likes to grind then oh, she just *has* to be a whore 24/7 right?

While I don’t comment much, from what I have read of your blog Britni shows that you’re intelligent and a strong soul. There’s someone out there for all of us but unfortunately there are a lot of fucking losers out there. Don’t give up hope- you’ll find them in amongst these shitheads.

xx MM

P.s: My inner teen-movie-fetishist thought of the most immature and hilairous way to get R.E.V.E.N.G.E if they won’t give you R.E.S.P.E.C.T- send them a gym sock with “Introduce THIS to your mum, arsehole :) ”. So stupid but hahahahahahah!

]]> By: SkyddsDrake http://britisshameless.com/2010/09/maybe-one-day-ill-be-more-than-just-sex-to-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-15532 SkyddsDrake Sun, 26 Sep 2010 14:14:54 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3823#comment-15532 I slept with my husband the first evening we met. No one has ever known or understood me better. No one has ever appreciated me the way he does. Hate to say it, Deandra, but I think your logic is flawed. It's a matter of the person. If they're right for you, they're right for you. Britni - I haven't really gathered from you blog whether you're a "it'll happen when it happens" kind of person. However, I HAVE gathered that you've had a rough time for quite some time, you're really busy getting things in gear and on track in Boston (glad to hear that seems to be going super swell), and maybe now just isn't the time for "that one" to step into your life? It'll happen. Gods know it just takes a bit longer for some of us than others! Ugh... I can see how you'd be so disheartened with messages like that coming your way, though. Worst part is? They probably don't even grasp the message they're actually sending when they say those things. I slept with my husband the first evening we met. No one has ever known or understood me better. No one has ever appreciated me the way he does. Hate to say it, Deandra, but I think your logic is flawed. It’s a matter of the person. If they’re right for you, they’re right for you.

Britni – I haven’t really gathered from you blog whether you’re a “it’ll happen when it happens” kind of person. However, I HAVE gathered that you’ve had a rough time for quite some time, you’re really busy getting things in gear and on track in Boston (glad to hear that seems to be going super swell), and maybe now just isn’t the time for “that one” to step into your life? It’ll happen. Gods know it just takes a bit longer for some of us than others! Ugh… I can see how you’d be so disheartened with messages like that coming your way, though. Worst part is? They probably don’t even grasp the message they’re actually sending when they say those things.

]]> By: April http://britisshameless.com/2010/09/maybe-one-day-ill-be-more-than-just-sex-to-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-15531 April Sun, 26 Sep 2010 13:19:13 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3823#comment-15531 I should add that I wasn't talking about ALL men. I should add that I wasn’t talking about ALL men.

]]> By: April http://britisshameless.com/2010/09/maybe-one-day-ill-be-more-than-just-sex-to-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-15530 April Sun, 26 Sep 2010 13:09:29 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3823#comment-15530 I dated this guy once for a few months. We had amazing, mind-blowing sex together. His 30th birthday was approaching and he sat me down and told me we needed to talk. He said, "I'm about to turn 30. Most of my friends are married, having children and are serious about their lives. I feel like I should be heading down that path as well. So, I don't think it's a good idea for us to see each other anymore." I asked, "Why?" He said, "Because I need to find a girl that my parents would approve of." Of course I was very offended. "And how do you know your parents wouldn't approve of me?" He said, "Because you're a freak in bed." (with a big smile on his face) I replied, "Oh yes, that's right! I forgot that if I were to meet your parents, I would just spill my guts about how much I like you to fuck my ass, tie me up, gag me, choke me and tell me what a whore I am! Any respectable girl would keep those comments to herself!" Then I immediately left. Sometimes it seems like a double-edged sword when trying to figure out men. They want a girl that's going to give them great sex but then if you do, they put you into a category of "not parent worthy". Then if you give them vanilla sex, they put you into a category of "boring". That guy I mentioned above met a girl, married her 6 months later and is miserable. He emailed me on the day of his wedding saying, "I'm thinking about you." He emailed me on his honeymoon saying, "I really wish this was you laying next to me." I didn't reply to either of those emails. A few months later I wrote him this long email explaining why I was so mad at him. I asked him why me being good in bed automatically removed me from the "parent approval" category. I told him that was absolute absurd because even though I'm good in bed (according to him), I'm still smart, funny, caring and most definitely presentable to anyone's parents. He replied back to me and told me that I am absolutely all of those things and he was 100% wrong to think otherwise. He claimed to regret ever thinking that I wasn't. Oh well, his loss. I dated this guy once for a few months. We had amazing, mind-blowing sex together. His 30th birthday was approaching and he sat me down and told me we needed to talk. He said, “I’m about to turn 30. Most of my friends are married, having children and are serious about their lives. I feel like I should be heading down that path as well. So, I don’t think it’s a good idea for us to see each other anymore.” I asked, “Why?” He said, “Because I need to find a girl that my parents would approve of.” Of course I was very offended. “And how do you know your parents wouldn’t approve of me?” He said, “Because you’re a freak in bed.” (with a big smile on his face) I replied, “Oh yes, that’s right! I forgot that if I were to meet your parents, I would just spill my guts about how much I like you to fuck my ass, tie me up, gag me, choke me and tell me what a whore I am! Any respectable girl would keep those comments to herself!” Then I immediately left.

Sometimes it seems like a double-edged sword when trying to figure out men. They want a girl that’s going to give them great sex but then if you do, they put you into a category of “not parent worthy”. Then if you give them vanilla sex, they put you into a category of “boring”.

That guy I mentioned above met a girl, married her 6 months later and is miserable. He emailed me on the day of his wedding saying, “I’m thinking about you.” He emailed me on his honeymoon saying, “I really wish this was you laying next to me.” I didn’t reply to either of those emails. A few months later I wrote him this long email explaining why I was so mad at him. I asked him why me being good in bed automatically removed me from the “parent approval” category. I told him that was absolute absurd because even though I’m good in bed (according to him), I’m still smart, funny, caring and most definitely presentable to anyone’s parents. He replied back to me and told me that I am absolutely all of those things and he was 100% wrong to think otherwise. He claimed to regret ever thinking that I wasn’t.

Oh well, his loss.

]]> By: Keenacat http://britisshameless.com/2010/09/maybe-one-day-ill-be-more-than-just-sex-to-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-15528 Keenacat Sun, 26 Sep 2010 08:40:30 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3823#comment-15528 Makes it even worse. :/ But then, you'll find somebody eventually. Makes it even worse. :/
But then, you’ll find somebody eventually.

]]> By: Red http://britisshameless.com/2010/09/maybe-one-day-ill-be-more-than-just-sex-to-someone/comment-page-1/#comment-15527 Red Sun, 26 Sep 2010 08:31:41 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3823#comment-15527 You know I love ya, and you know I agree that there's no such thing as "sleeping with someone too quickly" (I slept with my boifriend the second day I knew him in person/fourth day I knew him/after our first date) and we've been together in a healthy & happy relationship for almost a year now. So...that's not it. I think it just might be the guys you choose. You said yourself that you have an affinity for partners with addictive personalities and problems (past or current) with addiction. People in the midst of either their recovery or their addiction cannot connect emotionally to another person in a healthy/productive manner. You know that. It's not that they don't miss other things about you; they just aren't capable of accessing those emotions due to their disease. You admit to your White Knight syndrome. How about next time, finding a person you can be equal partners to instead of trying to save? You'll feel loved, safe, protected, appreciated as well as being able to provide those feelings to (and having those feelings be felt by) your partner. BTW, as others have said, you're way more than awesome booty. I know you know that. :) Don't let any exes make you feel less than; those peeps are exes for a reason. You know I love ya, and you know I agree that there’s no such thing as “sleeping with someone too quickly” (I slept with my boifriend the second day I knew him in person/fourth day I knew him/after our first date) and we’ve been together in a healthy & happy relationship for almost a year now. So…that’s not it. I think it just might be the guys you choose. You said yourself that you have an affinity for partners with addictive personalities and problems (past or current) with addiction. People in the midst of either their recovery or their addiction cannot connect emotionally to another person in a healthy/productive manner. You know that. It’s not that they don’t miss other things about you; they just aren’t capable of accessing those emotions due to their disease.

You admit to your White Knight syndrome. How about next time, finding a person you can be equal partners to instead of trying to save? You’ll feel loved, safe, protected, appreciated as well as being able to provide those feelings to (and having those feelings be felt by) your partner.

BTW, as others have said, you’re way more than awesome booty. I know you know that. :) Don’t let any exes make you feel less than; those peeps are exes for a reason.

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