http://britisshameless.com/2010/08/afraid-of-men/ I'm nothing but a brash and impetuous girl striving to be true to myself while searching for somewhere to belong, someone to love, and a better version of me. Thu, 18 Nov 2010 02:47:46 +0000 hourly 1 http://britisshameless.com/2010/08/afraid-of-men/comment-page-1/#comment-14815 Eve Wed, 18 Aug 2010 16:42:45 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3657#comment-14815 That sounds rather similar to the relationship I had with my ex-girlfriend (more of an emotional than physical connection). Except she had no history of abuse and no hatred or fear of men. She also identified as straight. The comparison suggests to me that perhaps your ex-girlfiriend would have been more interested in men if it weren't for her history of abuse. But I don't think it does matter, ultimately. Even straight people sometimes are attracted to or fall in love with people of the same gender (like my ex), and maybe she still would have even without that fear of men. The only thing that truly matters here is what DID happen. Still, it can be hard not to wonder about it. I know I do. That sounds rather similar to the relationship I had with my ex-girlfriend (more of an emotional than physical connection). Except she had no history of abuse and no hatred or fear of men. She also identified as straight. The comparison suggests to me that perhaps your ex-girlfiriend would have been more interested in men if it weren’t for her history of abuse. But I don’t think it does matter, ultimately. Even straight people sometimes are attracted to or fall in love with people of the same gender (like my ex), and maybe she still would have even without that fear of men. The only thing that truly matters here is what DID happen. Still, it can be hard not to wonder about it. I know I do.

]]> http://britisshameless.com/2010/08/afraid-of-men/comment-page-1/#comment-14794 Sa Tue, 17 Aug 2010 17:08:48 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=3657#comment-14794 I think this is an interesting question. I can't speak for your friend, but I definitely see traces of reaction to abuse in my sister, who identifies as bi. She feels less threatened by women's bodies. I think this is an interesting question. I can’t speak for your friend, but I definitely see traces of reaction to abuse in my sister, who identifies as bi. She feels less threatened by women’s bodies.

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