Comments on: Drunk Bitches Totes Deserve To Be Raped

By: Blaize

Blaize — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 17:07:16 +0000

Do you know how to read, AL? Did the comment DIRECTLY ABOVE YOUR OWN make no impression at all? Here, I’ll quote it: “I’ll try to be nice when saying this, but honestly, no woman needs to hear the advice because we’ve been getting it since we can remember. The drinking and going out stuff starts a bit later, but believe me, this shit gets POUNDED into our heads before we are ten. We don’t need advice.”

You assume you just to get come to a conversation and say whatever the fuck you want without bothering to read or think about what all the people who have been having this conversation months ago have written. Your comment is identical to several comments already posted. The tone and content of your comment has been wearily debunked as Really Really Not Helpful. There was no point in making it.

By: AL

AL — Tue, 31 Aug 2010 13:20:24 +0000

Isn’t it foolish to assume that men will behave themselves in a civilized manner at all times? Yes, a rapist is always 100% responsible for his (or in very rare cases her) own actions, but that doesn’t mean that women and girls should willingly place themselves at risk. It isn’t fair that you should have to drink only with people you know and trust, it isn’t fair that you should have to be on guard for someone drugging your drink, but it not being fair doesn’t make you any less at risk. Take for example the case in Richmond, California where a 15 year old girl was gang raped after Homecoming. Were her attackers completely responsible for their actions? Yes, without a doubt. But, at the same time she could have used more common sense in not going into a secluded area with a large group of males she really didn’t know. I guess my point is you can’t just assume all men are going to act like decent human beings.

By: isolde-roblis

isolde-roblis — Mon, 02 Aug 2010 08:13:43 +0000

aaaaamen- i agree with YOU!!!!! (Britni, not the commenters)

By: Super Powers

Super Powers — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 05:22:44 +0000

[...] just be The Best Comment Ever regarding how to avoid being sexually assaulted. He was replying to MoonlightSunshine’s comment on this post: Why don’t you go “be safe” from getting killed. I do what I can and no one [...]

By: Julie

Julie — Tue, 13 Jul 2010 00:02:56 +0000

I got robbed a year and a half ago, and you would not believe the amount of people who focused on “where your purse was” and “how you could have prevented it.” It was frustrating. That’s just my little two cents here.

By: MoonshineSunlight

MoonshineSunlight — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 02:06:03 +0000

Kay, John, here’s the thing. Why don’t you go “be safe” from getting killed. Why don’t you go try to “be safe” from an earthquake? Go “be safe” from getting the flu.

Being safe is not going to help solve the problem, because apparently “being safe” is only supposed to work for rape victims, because they are the only ones being told that. It is an idiotic fallacy that only women should have to “be safe” don’t you think?

By: MoonshineSunlight

MoonshineSunlight — Thu, 01 Jul 2010 02:01:59 +0000

You’re, kidding, right advizor? Tell me you are joking. The criminal justice system does nothing other than criminalize those who are not normative and white. All it takes is taking a basic sociology class in college to know that. The criminal justice system will arrest a minority far more quickly than it will someone who is white for the exact same crime. The so-called justice system takes society’s prejudices and puts them in prison.

By: french

french — Wed, 30 Jun 2010 00:49:58 +0000

Yeah I’m pretty sure I got mansplainin’ and rape apology bingo both in this thread.

By: To Infinity

To Infinity — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 23:21:25 +0000

Jon, I think part of the issue is not that you were giving advice, but rather who you were giving it to. Anytime you try to tell someone what they should have done after an event occurs it always sounds like you are blaming them. This is true for rape or car accidents or anything really.

So, while it is good to educate people who don’t know, and yes I agree that it can help, the advice isn’t needed here. To people who have been raped it sounds like you are blaming them for not behaving a certain way by repeating something which already know. Also, in this case it wouldn’t have mattered either way so you’re basically exacerbating the feeling that you’re blaming the victim.

I’m glad you’ve been able to come back and keep commenting and seemingly learn a bit but you could work on putting yourself in their shoes a bit better next time.

By: alana

alana — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 20:01:21 +0000

Exactly! That was what I was trying to say but hadn’t quite formed the idea yet. The idea that women are in a naturally consenting state explains so much about rape culture and sexual assault (not to mention cat-calling).