Also, you’re right that I didn’t specify what my concerns were (since I wasn’t even sure what they were but the best way I can explain my initial reaction is when non-Native Americans wear traditional war bonnets – though I no longer feel this way). It was just the assumption that my discomfort came from trying to reinforce the gender binary that rubbed me the wrong way since I knew my concerns came from thinking about my own cis-privilege (which you couldn’t have possibly known obviously) that rubbed me the wrong way.

And yes I did feel your response was defensive, but I could have just been overly-sensitive. Tone is a bitch to figure out on the internet so sorry if I was bitchy back.

I also don’t agree that I am reinforcing the gender binary by thinking it might be wrong for someone who is perfectly comfortable with their gender to appropriate something that is also used by people who are trans.

“Perfectly comfortable” with my gender is a bold assumption to make. While I’m not trans or GQ, lately I’ve been exploring other parts of my gender that are not female. I’ve taken to wearing strap ons, which I never wanted to do. I wear male clothing on occasion, sometimes just male clothing, sometimes in combination with my feminine clothing. While I’m predominantly female in my gender identity, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t other aspects to it as well.

I wasn’t trying to not take your concerns into consideration; you didn’t really voice any specific concerns for me to consider beyond that it kind of made you uncomfortable and might disrespect trans people. I don’t think I’m appropriating or mocking anyone’s gender identity by exploring my own.

Also, thanks for understanding that I was only thinking out loud instead of making assumptions about my intent. I recognize that I am definitely not a person of authority on this, but I don’t think there is anything wrong with questioning things.