Comments on: Kinksterwear

By: SkyddsDrake

SkyddsDrake — Sat, 01 May 2010 16:15:36 +0000

On one level, these shirts kind of make me giggle, nod and blush. On another level, I really couldn’t see myself wearing them out and about. At least, probably not where I live now. It’s too conservative, and frankly I’d be concerned about the reaction it would get. Back home, in the Cities, where things were a little more liberal and open-minded? Maybe… But probably not where a supervisor or client might see. Good grief… I can just imagine the fall-out if a teen-aged client saw an authority figure they trusted wearing something like this without the context. And how could you really explain the context without crossing a ton of ethical boundaries?

By: sulpicia

sulpicia — Sat, 01 May 2010 10:14:04 +0000

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By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Sat, 01 May 2010 01:33:41 +0000

Oh, and I do like the “Nobody knows I’m kinky” shirt. In fact, it’s my favorite, too.

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Sat, 01 May 2010 01:02:18 +0000

Thanks for replying! I agree that I like the idea of not having to hide your kinky identity and such, and I also know that BDSM is totally consensual and all of that. So I understand what the intention behind the shirts was, for sure. Which is why I mention that I think the shirts would be appropriate at kink events with likeminded people, but not so much for every day wear.

By: Epiphora

Epiphora — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 21:12:57 +0000

Yeah. Only kink functions. Otherwise you come off just as badly as the douches who wear the rape joke shirts.

By: James

James — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 16:21:19 +0000

Hi!

First off, my fiancé loves your blog and was stunned to see my shirts on your site. Frankly, I was stunned and a little thrilled.

Then I read the text.

Okay, I completely understand where your reservations are coming from. Really. I consider myself a rabid feminist (whatever that word means these days) and see why you might see these as “I condone non-consensual violence towards anyone” shirts. They really aren’t.

I’ll just say the thing I like about the scene and let the conversation start (because, it’s not like I have all the answers). What I love about the scene is that while there are your fair share of creepers and assholes (as there are in any group), the BDSM scene knows it can been seen as a haven for said creepers and is usually very proactive about removing anyone like that from the scene.

In Madison, I know of two separate incidents were someone was acting in a creeperish way and was “asked” to leave and never come back. Non-consensual violence is nevereverever allowed and violators will be sent home packing.

What I like from the shirts is the idea that this thing we are expected to hide from the world is now a shirt. My favorite is “Nobody knows I’m kinky” which creates the paradox of telling everyone that you are kinky. Be as open as you want, or wear these to clubs. Your call.

I’m sure I’ve brought up more questions than answered, but I will happily address/answer whatever questions you have!

Thanks,

-James

By: BlowJoy

BlowJoy — Fri, 30 Apr 2010 16:17:29 +0000

Do not like. Not the way to help BDSM (and other “alternative” lifestyles) be understood by the general population.

Also, it’s just tacky. T-shirts with “funny” saying on them tend to just be cheesy and lame anyway.