Comments on: Fat Lip

By: Safe

Safe — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 04:04:44 +0000

[...] lot of people disagreed with my decision to sleep with The Bruiser after my break-up with Profligacy. However, there were reasons for the decision. Everyone has a [...]

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 01:05:49 +0000

I DON’T just want agreement. But I don’t need a parent. I don’t need to be told I’m a vile person. I don’t need to be told I have no business being in the mental health field because I’m a trainwreck. I don’t need to be called a homewrecking whore. I don’t need to be asked how I can sleep at night. I don’t need to be called pathetic and awful. There is a big difference between those things, and saying that you don’t think something was a good move.

By: fuzzy

fuzzy — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 01:01:16 +0000

It is, as I’ve said, like watching a train wreck. Concerned people actually offer opinions….you just only want agreement.

If you want peace, keep your thoughts to yourself.

By: PandaDementia

PandaDementia — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 00:59:43 +0000

Then stopping your blog probably is the best thing. If you write about your bad decisions in a public forum, some people are going to express concern. That’s the nature of the interwebz.
Good luck.

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 00:54:17 +0000

I also deserve to live my life without random people being my parent about it.

By: PandaDementia

PandaDementia — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 00:52:19 +0000

I have never personally attacked you, never called you names, never wished you harm in any way. All I have done is support you when I agreed with you & challenged your way of thinking when I didn’t agree with you. Any time someone expresses concern over your decisions, you see it only as “judgment” and “criticism.” You may call what I say “parental and unnecessary,” I see it as “caring and very necessary that SOMEone tell you these things.”
Despite the absence of personal attacks & the fact that I only want to see you happy & healthy, you block me on Twitter. This proves to me that all you want is attention and validation. You don’t want to better yourself, you are comfortable in the little drug and booze-fueled world that you live in. There are far too many people who enable you, and I won’t be one of them. I won’t tell you what you want to hear just to stay your friend or your Twitter follower.
I truly hope that changes someday, that you open yourself up to things you don’t want to hear but may be good for you, and that you find yourself and what you’re looking for. You deserve better than what you’re doing to yourself.

By: fuzzy

fuzzy — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 14:02:58 +0000

Every time I say I can’t watch, I come back for one more glimpse…..and then you say you don’t want criticism.

Grow up, girl. You don’t need to be me at 48, with scars running up and down your body from trying to put some form to the pain. Somehow I have a feeling that your beloved Profligacy couldn’t watch either…….

Best of luck, darlin’. You need it.

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Sat, 03 Apr 2010 23:41:42 +0000

Because I don’t need to put up with assholes.

By: Ghouldilocks

Ghouldilocks — Fri, 02 Apr 2010 01:11:16 +0000

"but, like, maybe don’t post pictures of that possibly permanent wound as if it’s a trophy of your sexual freedom." But, like, maybe you should, like, not look if it, like, totes bothers you so much. Like, srsly. "Especially when the rest of us see it for what it is: Another cry for help." "The rest of us" = "The people who don't actually know you, but feel like playing Dr. Phil today and giving out their unsolicited interwebz advice behind anonymity."

By: Phaedra

Phaedra — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 18:50:15 +0000

Ignore them, Britni. I understand. Sometimes you form connections with people who weren’t good for you in certain contexts but you find them to be just what you need in others. Just because you had a rocky history with him doesn’t mean he can’t be there to make you feel not alone and it doesn’t mean he’s an inherently bad person. My friends always judged X because of how he treated me but they never gave him a chance to prove that he was actually a good person.

Even after X and I ended, I convinced him to fuck me once more. To let me stay the night a few more times. It wasn’t because I wanted to go back to him or wanted to go back to the way things were at all. The sex was because I knew he could give me what I needed. I needed to be able to say ‘hurt me’ and have him know exactly what that meant. The spending the night was just because I didn’t want to be alone.

So yeah. I feel for you. I’m sorry about what happened recently, but I’m glad you’ve found someone who you can trust and who you feel safe with. When you hurt as bad as I imagine you do, it helps so much to just have someone physically there.

Hugs.