Comments on: Three is Company, Four is a Crowd

By: Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois

Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 23:50:40 +0000

Can I recommend a site for people interested in this? (I don't work for them, don't worry.) I've found http://www.lifestylelounge.com is a great way to meet swingers, be them Vanilla (Vanilla Swingers? Hmm) or Kink. Lots of levels of discretion on that site, too, so your privacy is protected. It's definitely more geared toward couples. Single girls are always welcome and often single guys, but just like most sexytime sites, however, it's harder to be successful as a single man. Downside: you do have to pay to sign up, however.

By: SevurdLove

SevurdLove — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 22:16:38 +0000

I agree with both of you guys here. It actually depends on who is involved more then ANYTHING else. I have met couples who things can just go wild with almost no restrictions and then there are some where very strict rules apply, they just wanted something specific. The couples you just "click" with and just do what feels good are almost always the best experiences. Of course in my relationships swinging always has some restraints. My current gal doesn't like hardswap except of the same sex. Otherwise there are no real limits on oral or otherwise.

Like Britini said, there are some seriously bad times when someone gets jealous, usually after the fact, turning the whole evening, which might have been amazing, into nothing but sadness and frustration. Knowing that people who you spent a lot of time getting to know will NEVER talk to you again or will be too awkward around you is a horrible feeling.

Other then that, both threesomes and foursomes are not that different... it is all in who is involved.

Like you guys my partners and I have always played in the same house. Although always in the same room within view on the first through third meetings. It is all a comfort thing. But all my foursomes were while I was in a relationship with other couples... meeting two different people and bringing them into things would just be messy.

By: blueeyedtawni

blueeyedtawni — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 22:10:17 +0000

being the ever curious one… a threesome was offered to me and my love.. we talked a good long time . talked with friends who swing and got lots of good advice..
sadly it never came in to play (bad pun)
due to the other being a virgin and in my eyes not mature enough to deal with a couple. he certainly wanted too but on a emotional level i dont think he was ready.. now for the future if we find someone who knows…

By: Profligacy

Profligacy — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 19:24:53 +0000

Alana,

Brit and I only swing while we are both present, in the same room, participating together. The reasons are personal, strong, based on our relationship structure and mutual experiences.

We love seeing other get off. It is a beautiful thing. The distance right now is hard of course but I think we deal with it quite well through trust, Skype and various D/s aspects. When we get very frustrated the D/s side plays a much larger part in our relationship to fill that void.

We work hard to be together as often as possible and on the plan for a life in the same location. Both these things keep us sane.

By: alana

alana — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:52:59 +0000

So you don’t have sex with other people outside of threesomes or foursomes? I know that’s a really personal question and obviously you don’t have to answer. It’s just that this post gives that impression and I’m just wondering how you deal with that since you guys live so far apart.

By: JonsBabydoll

JonsBabydoll — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 17:00:40 +0000

I've been a part of a foursome. It was definitely not fantastic. The real problem with that was that the male part was extremely disrespectful. It made us reevaluate who we choose to play with. Respect is key in any play aspect in my opinion.

By: LindsayPlease

LindsayPlease — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 14:38:08 +0000

I've had enough of both to know that I have to agree with Brit here. As a part of a D/s couple where I am the Domme, maybe that makes things a little different. But being with another couple has always led to nothing but a good time. Threesomes can lead to jealousy beyond belief (not with my man and I ever, but in the past). I think couples sex works because each couple knows what they're getting and we always end up going home with the person we love, which is nice.

Also, when Profligacy said that the third party is "allowed" to be there by the member of the same sex... also not always the case. I'm usually a lesbian and my man is straight-ish, so tables are always turning. I know you didn't mean anything by it, just know that that's not always the case.

On a totally different note, being able to call Brit a friend in real life AND in our other lives makes me so happy and knowing that both of you are out there, living your lives and doing what you do gives me hope that my relationship will work out as well. Thanks for being there! <3

By: Kara & Jessica

Kara & Jessica — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 06:45:48 +0000

I was involved in a threesome and foursome over the holiday break when I went away. I have to say I loved both. It was all woman of course, but I found a lot of it very sensual. Adding in some kink was fun to. I was restrained spread-eagle to the bed and had these other three women using me as they wanted. I loved every minute of it. That's just me though…Kara XOXOXO

By: Kara & Jessica

Kara & Jessica — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 06:45:48 +0000

By: Kara & Jessica

Kara & Jessica — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 06:45:48 +0000