Great pieces of writing, Brit! I hope this post does not offend you.

Thank you for stopping by and saying your piece in a respectful way. And I appreciate Kinky Jew's last comment, as it seemed that the all of the ones before that were really apathetic to the fact that many people were offended by her post.

Are there sex-positive pieces on the site? Yes, there are. And I totally support and love the fact that Sandy wanted non-sex bloggers as contributors. Everyone has sex, and everyone's voice should be represented. However, I'm not a "professional," either; I'm just a regular girl that writes about sex. I also have supported the site, even though I had read a few pieces that rubbed me the wrong way. I linked to you guys on my sidebar and subscribed to you feed. I like hearing new perspectives, and enjoy reading things that I disagree with, because they make me think.

However, the pieces that I linked to far overshadow a lot of the good stuff on the site. It's one thing to write a personal opinion piece, or talk about something that you don't get or like. It's something totally different to insult people that do get or like it. And as long as you choose to publish pieces like that, I cannot consider the site sex-positive. Clearly, I'm not the only one that feels that way. If so many people didn't agree with me so strongly, this whole thing wouldn't have gotten as big as it did!

I was offended by the post, which is why I commented and tweeted, but it was the response to my (and others') comments that *really* turned me off. While Sandy apologized for responding emotionally and harshly (and honestly, I'm glad she did, because when the *site administrator* was that rude and intolerant of people commenting on her blog, I was REALLY turned off), Kinky Jew not only didn't apologize, she belittled and insulted those of us that disagreed with and/or were offended by her piece. And that's not okay.

I am actually going to re-link to you guys, because I think that dissenting opinions are important. However, "Ew, gross, if you squirt or like squirting, something is clearly wrong with you," and "you're not bisexual, you're just a huge slut" will never, ever be sex-positive. Sarcasm or not, if you want to see an example of satire and personal opinion, check here. Those posts were neither of those things. The post about male birth control was sexist and insulting to every responsible, decent male out there.

You guys have the right to publish whatever you want, and I have the right to disagree with any and all of it if I choose. We'll have to agree to disagree, I suppose.

My only hope is that people were able to find blogs like this one via the comments over there, or even just read those comments and know that one person's lame opinion of something doesn't mean they're a freak. I hope women (and men) know that there is a whole world of sex-positive, friendly and educational blogs for them to read from.

I'm so glad you posted this. I wanted to say so the other day when I read it but I'm a little shy and everyone else seemed to say what I was thinking. Thank you. =)

Listen, all she did was say that after watching some porn that she found squirting yucky. She certainly never said that because you squirt, then you must be disgusting. She asks why people find it desirable. She says that she doesn't understand it.

If you take this video and show it to 100 women off the street, how many many of them do you think would say. "ew." I would bet that it would be a significant number.

If that reaction makes you feel ashamed because you don't feel the same way, well then I really don't know what to say to you. I personally find it hot. Sandy probably does as well as she has stated that she is an enthusiastic squirter. I can see how some people can be weirded out by it though. {shrug]

The site isn't sex positive? That's ridiculous. When Sandy decided that she wanted to move the site to this format she purposely went out of her way to recruit writers that were not sex bloggers.

She wanted to hear from women that for the most part are not typical sex writers. She wanted to have writers that could really relate and connect to the audience that that she is trying to reach. Does that make for some posts that may come across as not being as enthusiastic towards certain aspects of sexuality as a typical sex blog? Probably. I don't see it as a hanging offense though.

It's just another take on sex. To say that the site is not sex positive based on a few posts is shortsighted. Let me point you some of the content that perhaps attempts to better make that point.

Female ejaculation 101

When children find your sex toys

The psychology of submission

Guys, bum play won't make you gay

Purity balls – Metaphorical incest is cool

I can go on and on. We have a massive amount of content on the site. Some is more enthusiastic about sex than others, but this is a site that embraces sex.

Now as far as the comment thread goes… that was a total shit show. I can assure you that Sandy regrets how she handled the situation. I think it was a good lesson for her as an administrator of a busy site and she has posted to that affect.

Lastly, The Kinky Jew says in her latest comment on the post.

"Again, I appreciate those who respectfully disagree with me, or who have been offended (and I apologize again for that, as it was not my intent) but managed to keep their tone civil."

oh, and humour is funny.

if something isn't funny, saying that it is 'humour' doesn't make it funny. in fact, having to point that out at all should be a good indication that one has failed at their attempt.

ps forgive my extra 'u's in humour – I'm canadian.

So what I'm going to do is start reading your blog and never visit that other blog again (I hadn't heard of it in the first place before this situation.)

Nadia

Ironical she talks about feeling pressure to do thing because of porn when she creates an even more unrealistic form of pressure by comparing squirting to acts such as facials she and her supporters do is implying that squirting is as voluntary and can be controlled and thus creating pressure to control an involuntary response.

It's fucking normal, it happens to a lot of people, and fuck the person who wrote that for being just like the people who made me feel shamed about it when I was younger. I come hard, I soak the towel, and too bad for you if you don't come out of an orgasm soaked, because you know what, that shit is intense. That's all I have to say on the topic.