Comments on: “Vanilla” Sex

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 18:01:02 +0000

Do you wonder if you ever lived near each other and were in a "regular" relationship how that would affect your D/s dynamic in the long-run?

I'm planning a post about this, but when the two of us are together for the weeeknds, there is a dynamic that is always present with us in subtle ways. We're much more like a "regular" couple than people probably think.

But for me, falling in love with Him has actually made it easier and more willing for me to submit. Because I love Him, I want to be the best sub for Him that I can, to meet all His needs, and to make Him happy.

I find it harder to submit to someone that I don't care about, especially outside of the bedroom, because I'm not as invested and doesn't hurt me as much if I disappoint them. With Master, I'm devastated when I do, and caring so much about Him plays a role in that.

By: mydesire

mydesire — Mon, 02 Nov 2009 04:17:33 +0000

i think it's nothing but good to be able to have "vanilla" sex and not always a scene together. It's important to Sylvanus and I to have a wide variety. Beyond that, as much as sylvanus loves being dominant, he also craves being desired. He willingly and affectionately accepts my moves to "jump his bones".

xo mina

By: theybelongtous

theybelongtous — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 01:38:11 +0000

Vanilla sex has it's place. It just happens to not be in your bedroom.

peace…

By: alana

alana — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 16:54:07 +0000

That picture is all kinds of awesome.

By: Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois

Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 15:15:19 +0000

My problem with any D/s relationships that I've had in my life is that if I've ever fallen for my D (as it seems that you and your Master have) then something changes for me, and I can't get into the D/s stuff with him anymore. I think it has something to do with seeing someone's vulerability as an equal and no longer as a Dom Master or something. I've only been able to have "successful" and satisfying D/s relationships with people I don't get emotionally attached to. Long distance would help this, since you're not fucking all the time, so when you do, it's after a long build up and lots of fantasy talk. But do you wonder if you ever lived near each other and were in a "regular" relationship how that would affect your D/s dynamic in the long-run? Or maybe that's putting the horse way before the cart.

By: April

April — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 12:13:49 +0000

My comment was going to be similar to Sa's.

I'd like to add that when I saw the title I was very intrigued. Why? You ask. Because Britni and vanilla sex should never be in the same thought.

By: Kara and Jessica

Kara and Jessica — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 06:58:04 +0000

I would say Me & Jess have vanilla sex about 5% of the time. Ever since she introduced me to bondage and all her fun toys it's hard not to want to use them. I feel like I've become a bondage addict. Sex if good, but it just goes to a whole other level when we had some kink to it.
Well keep enjoying your "vanilla" sex Kara XOXOXO

By: Sa

Sa — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 06:51:54 +0000

Yeah, the downside of long-distance is that you're always trying to cram too much of everything in the weekend…You can discuss over the phone all the stuff you will do to each other but once together, it always comes together differently.
THe upside of long-distance being of course that you never stop having sex.

By: Red

Red — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 04:48:40 +0000

hehehehe.

I'm right there with you. Your version of 'vanilla' sex and my version are mirror images of each other. I hope I never have true vanilla sex every again. ;D