Comments on: Group Post: Caught

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Mon, 19 Oct 2009 02:16:04 +0000

I love this – they just can't catch a girl unless it is the right fit, can they?

By: autumn

autumn — Sat, 17 Oct 2009 14:27:28 +0000

it's been so cool to go around and read how everyone put their own special spin on the topic. this was so captivating and honest. i enjoyed it very much.

xoxo
loves autumn

By: Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois

Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 23:30:26 +0000

Brit,
That part I get. And I'm happy for you. It's hard to allow ourselves to be vulnerable and trust someone. But that's growth, and real love, both of ourselves and of someone else, too.
Which I guess leads me to other questions that maybe I'll save for another time. Mainly I wonder how much one can truly give oneself to another in a D/s relationship. How "real" can it really be? (I say this as someone who has been collared in the past herself.) I don't know. I'm interested to see how it goes for you (and all of us!). It's new right now, which is the best part... enjoy it!
xo

By: Petal

Petal — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 20:44:38 +0000

So very glad that you have finally been 'caught' by the right person for you….love your take on the 'caught' theme!

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 18:58:16 +0000

Welcome to Chicago,

You are more than welcome to question this. I've wanted a relationship, yes. But I've never really wanted to *commit* to a relationship. I was always looking around and playing games. I was fucking things up just as much as he was treating me like shit. It's almost like I was intentionally sabotaging the relationship. And my inability to fully commit to anyone, and the fact that I've cheated on almost everyone I've ever dated, isn't because I don't want a relationship, but because I'm afraid of getting hurt so I intentionally sabotage it.

As for The Bruiser post, I'd love to write one. I have a lot to say. He's actually still around. But his friends are the ones that found the blog, and I think they still read here, and I've promised him that I would not write anything more about him.

By: moresexchocolateandredlipstick

moresexchocolateandredlipstick — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 18:42:54 +0000

I was thinking of writing something along these lines but you wrote it better than I ever could. Knowing that you are so happy makes me happy too

—Amy xxxx

By: Gray

Gray — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 14:46:17 +0000

I am so happy that you are caught and happy! You fought off the others to be with the one that mattered the most.:) Great post!

By: Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois

Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 13:46:27 +0000

Will you be peeved if I question this? From your previous posts on your previous relationships, it seems just the opposite? That you were yearning to be "caught," you were so ready to be with someone. Why else would you give The Bruiser chance after chance? It seems to me you've been looking for a relationship for a long time, and the "fuck this, I don't care about relationships" attitude was a wall built up to keep you from being hurt from disappointment after disappointment?

Which of course, there is nothing at all wrong with. Who wouldn't want to be happy in a good relationship? Duh.

PS, I'd like to see a blog on your thoughts on The Bruiser and that whole time period in your life and how you now view it in retrospect. I think a lot of people who struggle with unhealthy back-and-forth relationships do eventually get out and have great perspectives when they look back. Just an idea!

By: Another Suburban Mom

Another Suburban Mom — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 10:45:03 +0000

You make being caught sound like a hell of a lot of fun.

By: Ms Scarlett

Ms Scarlett — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 06:32:19 +0000

I love your take on this… great post!