I think the elephant in the living room of the queer community is how, despite claiming to be open minded and not partitioning people by their sexuality (as the vanilla community does) they're actually VERY guilty of the same thing.

People say crap like: "You're too butch to be femme. You're not a real lesbian if you admit attraction to some men. Transguys can't be butch, even if they themselves identify themselves as such and (what Sinclair was guilty of) transguys are butch because they look butch, not because of how they feel inside." What was it Megan Fox said? "Bisexual girls who have relationships with men are dirty."

Christ.

Essin' Em, I think, explained it best resently – how a biologically female friend of hers identified as a 'he' – so he was a 'he' and that was all there was to it.

Until the queer community stop trying to make other queer people conform to their definitions, or being judgmental about how they identify themselves, it's never REALLY going to be that much better than the straight community.

Sorry to be so controversial, but as a straight guy with lots of queer friends, it's something I see time and time again and I think it needs to be said out loud.

i wholeheartedly agree!