Comments on: Angry Feminist

By: Another Suburban Mom

Another Suburban Mom — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 23:01:38 +0000

I usually just tell Republican jokes back until my relatives ears bleed, but thats me.

By: nenasadije

nenasadije — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 14:36:12 +0000

those kinds of comments come from a place of ignorance and fear. my sister-in-law's family are all brain washed bill o'reilly fans who had no problem throwing around the word "towel head" until they met my husband – an ethnic albanian (non-practicing) muslim. they have finally met the person they fear and he's not so bad. in fact, they kind of like him!

that said, i would really encourage you to share your experiences with your dad. he may think twice about making a rape joke or a lesbian joke knowing what his daughter has been through.

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 05:37:42 +0000

Dana, probably for the same reason that I haven't told my family I'm queer. I hope that one day I'll feel like I can.

By: Dana Andra

Dana Andra — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 05:30:34 +0000

Yeah, my dad and brother-in-law and to a degree my sister are all pretty free with the nigger and spic comments. Dinner is a fine time for nigger talk as far as they're concerned. I can nip it in the bud by saying "Can you all save the racial slurs until after I'm gone?" They're not happy about it, but at least they have the decency to respect the request from the weirdo from California. Haven't told them I'm trans yet. One guess why.

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 03:14:40 +0000

Kivrin, unfortunately, moving out is not an option right now. I'm a grad student with an unpaid internship. It's not financially possible at the moment, and probably won't be for a few years.

And for the most part, my parents (especially my mom) are great. And my dad is, too, we just have very different views of the world, which is why we don't speak about much of substance very often.

By: Ghouldilocks

Ghouldilocks — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 02:18:55 +0000

Ugh. Sounds like my family.

By: Kivrin

Kivrin — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 00:35:58 +0000

Two words: Move out.

Holidays will still be uncomfortable, but at least you won't have to deal with this shit on the daily. AND, maybe when you're not living under his roof, confronting your dad won't seem so impossible!

By: Hubman

Hubman — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 23:18:02 +0000

Reading this reminds me of my father at times. I recall driving with him, my then 6 yr old son in the backseat, when a college-aged adult strolled into the cross-walk in front of us. Fine, he had right of way. But the way he strolled, taking his own sweet time, holding up traffic irritated me. So I made some comment to my dad about inconsiderate kids [yeah, I'm getting old, bitching about 'kids today'!].

His reply? "Yeah, just like the fuckin' niggers back home". I could have killed him. Never mind the overt racism, but to say such a thing in front of my young, impressionable son?

My son spends one week every summer with my dad, which they both love. After we got back to my house, I told my dad that if he ever uttered a remark like that again in front of either of my kids, he'd never get a week with them again.

You know what? He stopped. I haven't caught him uttering a racist remark once since.

Maybe confronting your dad isn't such a bad idea.