Comments on: A Step Forward http://britisshameless.com/2009/06/a-step-forward/ I'm nothing but a brash and impetuous girl striving to be true to myself while searching for somewhere to belong, someone to love, and a better version of me. Thu, 18 Nov 2010 02:47:46 +0000 hourly 1 By: Orhan Kahn http://britisshameless.com/2009/06/a-step-forward/comment-page-1/#comment-4248 Orhan Kahn Fri, 26 Jun 2009 20:10:23 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=801#comment-4248 It didn't. But thank you. I will have to consult my gay source to see if its just me... according to them you're "pansexual" and that queer is an ugly word. Also, they approve of your label <i>Thundercock</i>.<br /><br />Personally, I like boobs. And beer. And pizza. My better half likes women also. She'd probably tap you. I don't know. If she was around right now I'd ask. Alls I know is that I'm a one woman-man, especially if that one woman can openly discuss fucking the shit out of other women with you. Thats win, win. It didn't. But thank you. I will have to consult my gay source to see if its just me… according to them you're "pansexual" and that queer is an ugly word. Also, they approve of your label Thundercock.

Personally, I like boobs. And beer. And pizza. My better half likes women also. She'd probably tap you. I don't know. If she was around right now I'd ask. Alls I know is that I'm a one woman-man, especially if that one woman can openly discuss fucking the shit out of other women with you. Thats win, win.

]]> By: Britni TheVadgeWig http://britisshameless.com/2009/06/a-step-forward/comment-page-1/#comment-4234 Britni TheVadgeWig Thu, 25 Jun 2009 08:00:13 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=801#comment-4234 Orhan, I still don't totally get your tone and often can't tell if you are kidding or not. If you're serious, well... um no.<br /><br />Not all females are queer. And not all women are feminists. And not all queer people identify as feminist.<br /><br />And, yes, that's what queer means. I don't discriminate based on sex or gender. I identify as queer and not bisexual because bisexual implies that there is a gender binary: men and women. I'm open to dating people of all genders: male, female, genderqueer, trans, and anything in between.<br /><br />How would you think that queer meant that I only had sex with one gender or the other? Did you think that meant only women? If so, I would use the term "lesbian."<br /><br />Hope that cleared things up! Orhan, I still don't totally get your tone and often can't tell if you are kidding or not. If you're serious, well… um no.

Not all females are queer. And not all women are feminists. And not all queer people identify as feminist.

And, yes, that's what queer means. I don't discriminate based on sex or gender. I identify as queer and not bisexual because bisexual implies that there is a gender binary: men and women. I'm open to dating people of all genders: male, female, genderqueer, trans, and anything in between.

How would you think that queer meant that I only had sex with one gender or the other? Did you think that meant only women? If so, I would use the term "lesbian."

Hope that cleared things up!

]]> By: Orhan Kahn http://britisshameless.com/2009/06/a-step-forward/comment-page-1/#comment-4233 Orhan Kahn Thu, 25 Jun 2009 07:55:58 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=801#comment-4233 Thank you for answering.<br /> <br />Though...<br /><br />Isn't that like saying you're a female woman?<br /><br />Also, I was under the impression you had sex with everything. Mostly men <i>and</i> women.<br /><br />I am so confused. Thank you for answering.

Though…

Isn't that like saying you're a female woman?

Also, I was under the impression you had sex with everything. Mostly men and women.

I am so confused.

]]> By: Britni TheVadgeWig http://britisshameless.com/2009/06/a-step-forward/comment-page-1/#comment-4222 Britni TheVadgeWig Thu, 25 Jun 2009 00:31:49 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=801#comment-4222 Orhan Kahn: I'm queer and I'm a feminist. Therefore, I'm a queer feminist.<br /><br />Damian: I will address much of this in a separate post because I think you asked a lot of good questions. Orhan Kahn: I'm queer and I'm a feminist. Therefore, I'm a queer feminist.

Damian: I will address much of this in a separate post because I think you asked a lot of good questions.

]]> By: mrs. m http://britisshameless.com/2009/06/a-step-forward/comment-page-1/#comment-4220 mrs. m Wed, 24 Jun 2009 15:32:05 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=801#comment-4220 i hope it went well! i'm a day behind. :P i hope it went well! i'm a day behind. :P

]]> By: Damian http://britisshameless.com/2009/06/a-step-forward/comment-page-1/#comment-4219 Damian Wed, 24 Jun 2009 08:33:26 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=801#comment-4219 I thought most therapists today used a combination of Jungian, Freudian, CBT, etc as different tools in their tookit to deal with different problems. I'd be disappointed too if a therapist only offered one approach. It would be like taking your car to a mechanic who would only fix things that required pliers or jumper leads. (Actually, I think I've just described an auto electrician!)<br /><br />Also, don't you have a professional supervisor - a therapist you see to offset the fact that you are dealing with everyone else's problems? Or is this therapist replacing the previous incumbent.<br /><br />Maybe your professor wanted you to see a men's activist so that all your views and ideas would be challenged and tested - it's a good way to help you to challenge bad ideas out of existance so that you can put all your energy behind your good ideas. <br /><br />Good luck with it all. I thought most therapists today used a combination of Jungian, Freudian, CBT, etc as different tools in their tookit to deal with different problems. I'd be disappointed too if a therapist only offered one approach. It would be like taking your car to a mechanic who would only fix things that required pliers or jumper leads. (Actually, I think I've just described an auto electrician!)

Also, don't you have a professional supervisor – a therapist you see to offset the fact that you are dealing with everyone else's problems? Or is this therapist replacing the previous incumbent.

Maybe your professor wanted you to see a men's activist so that all your views and ideas would be challenged and tested – it's a good way to help you to challenge bad ideas out of existance so that you can put all your energy behind your good ideas.

Good luck with it all.

]]> By: Sonora Sage http://britisshameless.com/2009/06/a-step-forward/comment-page-1/#comment-4218 Sonora Sage Wed, 24 Jun 2009 00:46:11 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=801#comment-4218 The image accompanying this post reminded me of the time when I made myself a 'Lucy & booth' avatar in Second Life because of the way my friends and acquaintances would seek me out for some informal therapy when they were having problems.<br /><br />I have no idea if I'm Jungian, and I'm pretty sure I'm not a men's activist! And <b>for sure</b> I'm not professionally qualified to deal with even the issues the Peanuts strip kids brought to Lucy!<br /><br />I do hope you find someone well-qualified, experienced with others similar to yourself, and with whom you can find healing while retaining the essential parts of <b>you</b>. I look forward to reading more about this particular journey. The image accompanying this post reminded me of the time when I made myself a 'Lucy & booth' avatar in Second Life because of the way my friends and acquaintances would seek me out for some informal therapy when they were having problems.

I have no idea if I'm Jungian, and I'm pretty sure I'm not a men's activist! And for sure I'm not professionally qualified to deal with even the issues the Peanuts strip kids brought to Lucy!

I do hope you find someone well-qualified, experienced with others similar to yourself, and with whom you can find healing while retaining the essential parts of you. I look forward to reading more about this particular journey.

]]> By: LL Cool Joe http://britisshameless.com/2009/06/a-step-forward/comment-page-1/#comment-4217 LL Cool Joe Tue, 23 Jun 2009 22:38:28 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=801#comment-4217 Good luck Britni. Thinking of you. :) Good luck Britni. Thinking of you. :)

]]> By: sqweakygurl http://britisshameless.com/2009/06/a-step-forward/comment-page-1/#comment-4216 sqweakygurl Tue, 23 Jun 2009 21:54:21 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=801#comment-4216 yay! i hope it goes okay :) take care luv. yay! i hope it goes okay :) take care luv.

]]> By: Orhan Kahn http://britisshameless.com/2009/06/a-step-forward/comment-page-1/#comment-4215 Orhan Kahn Tue, 23 Jun 2009 21:14:56 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=801#comment-4215 What exactly is a <i>queer feminist</i>? What exactly is a queer feminist?

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