Comments on: Loose Associations http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/loose-associations/ I'm nothing but a brash and impetuous girl striving to be true to myself while searching for somewhere to belong, someone to love, and a better version of me. Thu, 18 Nov 2010 02:47:46 +0000 hourly 1 By: Epiphora http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/loose-associations/comment-page-1/#comment-6518 Epiphora Mon, 28 Dec 2009 22:00:35 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=754#comment-6518 Yes yes yes yes yes and YES. Yes yes yes yes yes and YES.

]]> By: Britni TheVadgeWig http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/loose-associations/comment-page-1/#comment-3200 Britni TheVadgeWig Fri, 29 May 2009 15:33:35 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=754#comment-3200 Change, I'm sorry, but no. Guys have self-control. Just because they may be getting turned on or start thinking dirty thoughts does not give them permission to be disrespectful and cross all lines of tact and social graces. You aren't giving men enough credit. In fact, with your argument, you could say that a guy couldn't help raping a girl because she was talking about sex and he got so turned on he just couldn't help himself.<br /><br />Nope. Control your id impulses and animalistic urges. We're human beings, not animals, and we should have some semblance of self control and manners. Change, I'm sorry, but no. Guys have self-control. Just because they may be getting turned on or start thinking dirty thoughts does not give them permission to be disrespectful and cross all lines of tact and social graces. You aren't giving men enough credit. In fact, with your argument, you could say that a guy couldn't help raping a girl because she was talking about sex and he got so turned on he just couldn't help himself.

Nope. Control your id impulses and animalistic urges. We're human beings, not animals, and we should have some semblance of self control and manners.

]]> By: poptrashtart http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/loose-associations/comment-page-1/#comment-3199 poptrashtart Fri, 29 May 2009 03:16:02 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=754#comment-3199 @ Change- I don't buy it. In fact, I think that's an insult to rational men- you're basically saying that they just can't help it. They can't think logically with their brains when their dicks are hard- and that's just not true. I think it's possible that maybe these men have been conditioned to think that when women talk about sex to them, the women are expecting some sort of perverted response instead of thoughtful dialogue. But that's still no excuse for totally ignoring what someone is communicating with you and instead using it as an excuse to whip it out. @ Change- I don't buy it. In fact, I think that's an insult to rational men- you're basically saying that they just can't help it. They can't think logically with their brains when their dicks are hard- and that's just not true. I think it's possible that maybe these men have been conditioned to think that when women talk about sex to them, the women are expecting some sort of perverted response instead of thoughtful dialogue. But that's still no excuse for totally ignoring what someone is communicating with you and instead using it as an excuse to whip it out.

]]> By: Change http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/loose-associations/comment-page-1/#comment-3196 Change Thu, 28 May 2009 22:24:14 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=754#comment-3196 Its the physical response of your sex talk, leading to arousal, which then leads to wanting sex and all the other things you mentioned. So while i understand what your saying, its easy to understand why it happens. The part your forgetting is the difference in physical response when men hear anything sexual, as opposed to how women respond. Its the physical response of your sex talk, leading to arousal, which then leads to wanting sex and all the other things you mentioned. So while i understand what your saying, its easy to understand why it happens. The part your forgetting is the difference in physical response when men hear anything sexual, as opposed to how women respond.

]]> By: Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/loose-associations/comment-page-1/#comment-3189 Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois Thu, 28 May 2009 15:10:25 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=754#comment-3189 Totally with you on this. Same goes with walking into a bar and instantly guys you barely know hug you or take your hand or touch you in some way. I HATE that. Just because I'm out or wearing a zexy outfit or talking about sex does NOT give you the right to instantly touch me or say X,Y,Z to me. Respect, dudes. Totally with you on this. Same goes with walking into a bar and instantly guys you barely know hug you or take your hand or touch you in some way. I HATE that. Just because I'm out or wearing a zexy outfit or talking about sex does NOT give you the right to instantly touch me or say X,Y,Z to me. Respect, dudes.

]]> By: April http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/loose-associations/comment-page-1/#comment-3187 April Thu, 28 May 2009 14:11:59 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=754#comment-3187 I agree that it's disgusting and completely inappropriate. <br /><br />Based on this post and a few others, it sounds like you have this problem often. I've tried online dating in the past and had this happen only a few times. <br /><br />I'm curious to know how your profiles are set up. If you have provocative pictures posted and you talk about sex/sex toys in your "about me" sections, some guys probably misconstrue that to mean that you are only looking for sex and it's ok to talk to you like that. Because some guys are idiots like that. They'll look over all the other stuff that shows what an intelligent, interesting woman you are and only see sex, sex, sex. <b>I'm not saying that your profile is set up this way because I've never seen it. If it is I'm not saying that it's *your* fault that they're talking to you like this and I'm not saying that you're asking for it.</b> I agree that it's disgusting and completely inappropriate.

Based on this post and a few others, it sounds like you have this problem often. I've tried online dating in the past and had this happen only a few times.

I'm curious to know how your profiles are set up. If you have provocative pictures posted and you talk about sex/sex toys in your "about me" sections, some guys probably misconstrue that to mean that you are only looking for sex and it's ok to talk to you like that. Because some guys are idiots like that. They'll look over all the other stuff that shows what an intelligent, interesting woman you are and only see sex, sex, sex. I'm not saying that your profile is set up this way because I've never seen it. If it is I'm not saying that it's *your* fault that they're talking to you like this and I'm not saying that you're asking for it.

]]> By: Nelfy http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/loose-associations/comment-page-1/#comment-3186 Nelfy Thu, 28 May 2009 13:05:24 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=754#comment-3186 Sometimes I read you blog and think to myself 'I'm learning so much'. I don't know why guys are that way, but I'd find it disgusting too. On the other hand, I don't know why some people can't talk about sex in an open, neutral way, without giggling, laughing or making stupid jokes. I get that talking about personal sexual experiences can be embarrassing, but when you just talk about sex in a broad way, I don't get that.<br /><br />I don't know why, but to me, being able to talk about what I like(d)/don't like(d) without it leading to sex is the same as actually having sex without it automatically leading to orgasm. It's a nice experience without any pressure. Sometimes I read you blog and think to myself 'I'm learning so much'. I don't know why guys are that way, but I'd find it disgusting too. On the other hand, I don't know why some people can't talk about sex in an open, neutral way, without giggling, laughing or making stupid jokes. I get that talking about personal sexual experiences can be embarrassing, but when you just talk about sex in a broad way, I don't get that.

I don't know why, but to me, being able to talk about what I like(d)/don't like(d) without it leading to sex is the same as actually having sex without it automatically leading to orgasm. It's a nice experience without any pressure.

]]> By: {{ d a n i m o }} http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/loose-associations/comment-page-1/#comment-3179 {{ d a n i m o }} Thu, 28 May 2009 10:32:55 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=754#comment-3179 hear, hear. it's a different matter if you're talking with someone in person and they can reasonably deduct from your behavior and demeanor (above and beyond your words) that you want to discuss matters more fully, that they might have a chance with you somewhere down the line. but if you're trying to find a date online and they bring up sex <b><i>with you</i></b> before you imply anything about sex <b><i>with them</i></b>, umm, what do they think they're doing? are there really women in the world who find that an attractive quality in a date? even most masochistic types don't like to be degraded and disrespected by strangers. surely online date-seekers must know this! but alas, humanity is a big, dumb fart. hear, hear. it's a different matter if you're talking with someone in person and they can reasonably deduct from your behavior and demeanor (above and beyond your words) that you want to discuss matters more fully, that they might have a chance with you somewhere down the line. but if you're trying to find a date online and they bring up sex with you before you imply anything about sex with them, umm, what do they think they're doing? are there really women in the world who find that an attractive quality in a date? even most masochistic types don't like to be degraded and disrespected by strangers. surely online date-seekers must know this! but alas, humanity is a big, dumb fart.

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