Comments on: Get A Second Wind http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/get-a-second-wind/ I'm nothing but a brash and impetuous girl striving to be true to myself while searching for somewhere to belong, someone to love, and a better version of me. Fri, 19 Nov 2010 02:54:12 +0000 hourly 1 By: twg http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/get-a-second-wind/comment-page-1/#comment-2797 twg Wed, 06 May 2009 18:17:00 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=700#comment-2797 Yay! Great post!<br /><br />I try not to take a soft penis personally, but my ex got me all paranoid with his issues. I'm still pretty nice about it, however. The only time it's a problem is when it's obviously too soft to go in, but the guy is still trying to get it in. Dude. No. And that's not age related :) Yay! Great post!

I try not to take a soft penis personally, but my ex got me all paranoid with his issues. I'm still pretty nice about it, however. The only time it's a problem is when it's obviously too soft to go in, but the guy is still trying to get it in. Dude. No. And that's not age related :)

]]> By: Britni TheVadgeWig http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/get-a-second-wind/comment-page-1/#comment-2761 Britni TheVadgeWig Tue, 05 May 2009 06:18:00 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=700#comment-2761 Thank you, figleaf :)<br /><br />Apollo, thanks so much for your additions and your input! It's great to hear from people that have more experience with things that I may not have had the opportunity to personally experience yet. Also, re: women taking a soft penis personally, I agree that it's irritating when women do that. I NEVER blame a guy for that. It just happens sometimes, especially if there is alcohol involved. Not every guy gets and stays hard every time. Just like women don't stay wet or get wet every time and lube needs to be involved. Thank you, figleaf :)

Apollo, thanks so much for your additions and your input! It's great to hear from people that have more experience with things that I may not have had the opportunity to personally experience yet. Also, re: women taking a soft penis personally, I agree that it's irritating when women do that. I NEVER blame a guy for that. It just happens sometimes, especially if there is alcohol involved. Not every guy gets and stays hard every time. Just like women don't stay wet or get wet every time and lube needs to be involved.

]]> By: Apollo Unchained http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/get-a-second-wind/comment-page-1/#comment-2760 Apollo Unchained Tue, 05 May 2009 06:13:00 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=700#comment-2760 "what he said", yes I agree with Figleaf, your post is outstanding. I also browsed getasecondwind.com and found some great articles.<br /><br />As a mid-50s man, I have some experience with most of the effects you mention, and I think you are dead on. Thank you for an excellent post.<br /><br />A few additions...<br /><br />In my experience anyway, with decreased penis sensitivity condoms become much more of an obstacle to satisfying sex, not just to orgasm but to maintaining an erection. So this is where accurate information about both safe sex and birth control becomes imperative. Younger people may be able to get away with saying "always use a condom", but older men may need to pay more attention to establishing trusted disease-free relationships.<br /><br />The other comment is that we shouldn't be shy about discussing (a) the deflating effect of alcohol on an erection in many older men and (b) the genuine value of drugs such as Viagra. Yes it can help.<br /><br />You already made this point yourself, but I would just emphasize that there are a lot ways to enjoy sex and penile penetration is only one of them. I think lesbians understand this better than anybody and we all can learn a lot from them.<br /><br />And finally, it's worth noting that these issues aren't limited just to older people. Young men may have erection issues too, usually from performance anxiety. Yet I still read women's blogs that seem to regard a limp dick as a personal insult, and as a good reason never to see a guy again. Too bad, because it's more likely to be hard the second time.<br /><br />Thanks again Britni. You do rock. "what he said", yes I agree with Figleaf, your post is outstanding. I also browsed getasecondwind.com and found some great articles.

As a mid-50s man, I have some experience with most of the effects you mention, and I think you are dead on. Thank you for an excellent post.

A few additions…

In my experience anyway, with decreased penis sensitivity condoms become much more of an obstacle to satisfying sex, not just to orgasm but to maintaining an erection. So this is where accurate information about both safe sex and birth control becomes imperative. Younger people may be able to get away with saying "always use a condom", but older men may need to pay more attention to establishing trusted disease-free relationships.

The other comment is that we shouldn't be shy about discussing (a) the deflating effect of alcohol on an erection in many older men and (b) the genuine value of drugs such as Viagra. Yes it can help.

You already made this point yourself, but I would just emphasize that there are a lot ways to enjoy sex and penile penetration is only one of them. I think lesbians understand this better than anybody and we all can learn a lot from them.

And finally, it's worth noting that these issues aren't limited just to older people. Young men may have erection issues too, usually from performance anxiety. Yet I still read women's blogs that seem to regard a limp dick as a personal insult, and as a good reason never to see a guy again. Too bad, because it's more likely to be hard the second time.

Thanks again Britni. You do rock.

]]> By: figleaf http://britisshameless.com/2009/05/get-a-second-wind/comment-page-1/#comment-2759 figleaf Tue, 05 May 2009 05:44:00 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=700#comment-2759 Wow, seriously great post, Britni! It's one of the things that make you so much fun to read -- you can go from professional sex ed to baseball to confessional/diary to inclusional photos to personal ones to chit-chat and back. In the same 24 hours. Awesome.<br /><br />figleaf Wow, seriously great post, Britni! It's one of the things that make you so much fun to read — you can go from professional sex ed to baseball to confessional/diary to inclusional photos to personal ones to chit-chat and back. In the same 24 hours. Awesome.

figleaf

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