Comments on: Normal http://britisshameless.com/2009/03/normal/ I'm nothing but a brash and impetuous girl striving to be true to myself while searching for somewhere to belong, someone to love, and a better version of me. Thu, 18 Nov 2010 02:47:46 +0000 hourly 1 By: April http://britisshameless.com/2009/03/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-2145 April Thu, 02 Apr 2009 19:42:00 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=622#comment-2145 Dude, I totally spelled your name wrong, and I'm sorry. <br /><br />Britni, Britni, Britni, Britni. See, I can spell it correctly! <br /><br />You were correct and I wasn't saying you were wrong. The point I was trying to make was about the term normal being subjective, in my opinion. And I can see how you thought that I was implying that you were *looking* for things, and I'm sorry if it came across that way. Forgive me, Britni? Dude, I totally spelled your name wrong, and I'm sorry.

Britni, Britni, Britni, Britni. See, I can spell it correctly!

You were correct and I wasn't saying you were wrong. The point I was trying to make was about the term normal being subjective, in my opinion. And I can see how you thought that I was implying that you were *looking* for things, and I'm sorry if it came across that way. Forgive me, Britni?

]]> By: Britni TheVadgeWig http://britisshameless.com/2009/03/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-2117 Britni TheVadgeWig Wed, 01 Apr 2009 19:07:00 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=622#comment-2117 To those implying that maybe I am *looking* for things that aren't there: You may see it as being over sensitive, but the point is that I was correct. There's a reason I pick up on these things. It's because they are there and it's because people say things like this all the time, either knowingly or not knowingly. It's the same way that I don't find sexist or misogynist jokes funny. I wouldn't have to be looking for these things if people weren't saying them. When you are part of a majority, you don't have to notice these things because they don't affect YOU directly. They don't affect your life or the way people view you. To those implying that maybe I am *looking* for things that aren't there: You may see it as being over sensitive, but the point is that I was correct. There's a reason I pick up on these things. It's because they are there and it's because people say things like this all the time, either knowingly or not knowingly. It's the same way that I don't find sexist or misogynist jokes funny. I wouldn't have to be looking for these things if people weren't saying them. When you are part of a majority, you don't have to notice these things because they don't affect YOU directly. They don't affect your life or the way people view you.

]]> By: April http://britisshameless.com/2009/03/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-2111 April Tue, 31 Mar 2009 20:10:00 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=622#comment-2111 I tend to think the word normal has become subjective. What's normal for me may not be normal for you. However, I understand how someone calling a straight person normal could be offensive to someone who isn't primarily straight. At the same time, due to being an amputee, I am not normal by most societal standards and I am OK with that. I often times refer to people with 2 good legs as normal and I wouldn't be offended if someone else did the same. <br /><br />I guess what I'm trying to say is that her statement only had greater implications if you allowed it to. People shouldn't be overly sensitive to everything that people say, which is what's happening across the world. <br /><br />Don't say your bowling is so poor you should be bowling for the special olympics because you'll upset the mentally challenged (who you BETTER not call retards). Don't be a teenager and take a picture with your friends making "Chinese eyes" with your fingers or else you'll have to apologize to every Asian person on the planet. If you even buy underwear in a store that sells fur coats, you're a bad person according to PETA. <br /><br />Things have gotten to be ridiculous, in my opinion. And people need to lighten up. <br /><br />End of rant, which was TOTALLY not aimed at you, Britini. Just in general. I tend to think the word normal has become subjective. What's normal for me may not be normal for you. However, I understand how someone calling a straight person normal could be offensive to someone who isn't primarily straight. At the same time, due to being an amputee, I am not normal by most societal standards and I am OK with that. I often times refer to people with 2 good legs as normal and I wouldn't be offended if someone else did the same.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that her statement only had greater implications if you allowed it to. People shouldn't be overly sensitive to everything that people say, which is what's happening across the world.

Don't say your bowling is so poor you should be bowling for the special olympics because you'll upset the mentally challenged (who you BETTER not call retards). Don't be a teenager and take a picture with your friends making "Chinese eyes" with your fingers or else you'll have to apologize to every Asian person on the planet. If you even buy underwear in a store that sells fur coats, you're a bad person according to PETA.

Things have gotten to be ridiculous, in my opinion. And people need to lighten up.

End of rant, which was TOTALLY not aimed at you, Britini. Just in general.

]]> By: The Promo Homo http://britisshameless.com/2009/03/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-2110 The Promo Homo Tue, 31 Mar 2009 19:41:00 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=622#comment-2110 My *queer* friend was over the other night and was in a particularly aggressive mood and decided to pick a fight with me. How? Here:<br /><br />"I don't think homosexuality is wrong, but I don't think it's natural."<br /><br />I am so sick of hearing that fucking statement from homophobic straight people, that I couldn't believe I was hearing this from a queer person. Although... he hasn't done anything with a boy, doesn't like gay men and won't be friends with them, and is a big self loather. So it kind of makes sense at this point. I know I've said some weird shit when I wasn't okay with liking girls (nothing offensive, but obviously things that weren't true, like "ew I could never kiss a girl"). <br /><br />He then backtracked when I said it occurred in nature, making it "totally natural". To which he said, "fine, then I meant it isn't NORMAL".<br /><br />....Ew, but this is why I don't hang out with him on purpose ever. My *queer* friend was over the other night and was in a particularly aggressive mood and decided to pick a fight with me. How? Here:

"I don't think homosexuality is wrong, but I don't think it's natural."

I am so sick of hearing that fucking statement from homophobic straight people, that I couldn't believe I was hearing this from a queer person. Although… he hasn't done anything with a boy, doesn't like gay men and won't be friends with them, and is a big self loather. So it kind of makes sense at this point. I know I've said some weird shit when I wasn't okay with liking girls (nothing offensive, but obviously things that weren't true, like "ew I could never kiss a girl").

He then backtracked when I said it occurred in nature, making it "totally natural". To which he said, "fine, then I meant it isn't NORMAL".

….Ew, but this is why I don't hang out with him on purpose ever.

]]> By: PrettyPrettyPrincess http://britisshameless.com/2009/03/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-2108 PrettyPrettyPrincess Tue, 31 Mar 2009 18:15:00 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=622#comment-2108 I think having awareness as an agenda would not be a bad thing.<br /><br />Spreading information and sensitivity is all to the good. Thank you for posting about this, sweets! It's an interesting slice of life, the queer girl in the down-home bar. There is hope for the world yet :) I think having awareness as an agenda would not be a bad thing.

Spreading information and sensitivity is all to the good. Thank you for posting about this, sweets! It's an interesting slice of life, the queer girl in the down-home bar. There is hope for the world yet :)

]]> By: Whiskey and Popcorn http://britisshameless.com/2009/03/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-2106 Whiskey and Popcorn Tue, 31 Mar 2009 17:47:00 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=622#comment-2106 I get you. This is what puts me off coming out to the family. They say they are o.k with homosexuality, but when they make comments like this I wonder. Hmmm. I get you. This is what puts me off coming out to the family. They say they are o.k with homosexuality, but when they make comments like this I wonder. Hmmm.

]]> By: John-Paul http://britisshameless.com/2009/03/normal/comment-page-1/#comment-2105 John-Paul Tue, 31 Mar 2009 17:43:00 +0000 http://britisshameless.com/?p=622#comment-2105 Deductive reasoning applied to societal norms manifests paranoia. That is not to say this individual wasn't being homophobic. Just try to avoid being the whistle blower all the time otherwise you will give the appearance that you have some agenda.<br /><br />/Devil's Advocate Deductive reasoning applied to societal norms manifests paranoia. That is not to say this individual wasn't being homophobic. Just try to avoid being the whistle blower all the time otherwise you will give the appearance that you have some agenda.

/Devil's Advocate

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