Comments on: Not Rape

By: eva

eva — Sun, 04 Jan 2009 15:41:00 +0000

your blog is getting better and better, britni, i'm in awe of your courage. i have so many friends, including men, who has been raped and Not Raped, some of the stories i've heard has been truly chilling and it's been heartbreaking to see how much it can influence people, years and years later. i find it so fucked up that a lot of men actually start fingering & having sex with girls who are asleep. this is not the first time i've heard about it. rapists are pathetic.

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 02:57:00 +0000

Anon: Yes, there are false reports. Just like there are false reports regarding other crimes as well. But I'm not quite sure I see your point. The fact that there are false rape reports filed in no way takes away from the wrongness, violation, and emotional damage that a rape or sexual assault or sexual harassment has on a person. Yes, men can be sexually harassed or assaulted or raped as well as women, but it is a rarer occurrence. I, personally, am a woman and so I speak from my experience with sexual assault.

So, I'm not sure I follow your point with that comment.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 01 Jan 2009 21:18:00 +0000

Nooo what about teh menz! Give me a break. Rapes have false reports at the same rate as all kinds of crime, and yes doesn't mean yes when someone is threatened or coerced.

By: Anonybrit

Anonybrit — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 19:13:00 +0000

The problem is compounded, howewever, by the fact that there are some women who say yes at the time, then wish they hadn't, then wish that they had said no and then convince themselves that in fact they did say no and then cry rape or assault when it is entirely unjustified.

The fact that this does happen makes administering the justice system in these cases a real minefield.

By: April

April — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 16:05:00 +0000

I am truly sorry that you, Latoya, or any other women have to experience this.

I want to write how I feel about this, but I'm having a hard time putting it in words that don't make me sound like I'm heartless or ignorant. So, I'm just going to say that I'm glad you were able to get it out and I'm sorry that it happened to you. And leave it at that.

By: SCAmsey

SCAmsey — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 15:41:00 +0000

Very well said. It's such a prominent issue, and it never gets the publicity and exposure that it duly requires. It takes a lot to talk about issues like this, especially when you've experienced them first hand. I applaud you.

By: ~art

~art — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 13:16:00 +0000

Sorry you have gone thru all of this. I do understand as I was molested when I was young and being a guy….well…..you just don't tell. Your boyfriend should have kicked their ass though.